The RAMP Solution to Porn Addiction: A Brief Overview

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The Goal

The goal is to stop watching porn and masturbation. The goal is to achieve the many benefits of living a porn free life. (Read: Get the RAMP Solution to Porn Addiction)

The Problem

The RAMP Solution to pornography addiction focuses on teaching you how the game is being played in your mind. The game is this: you have an overactive Limbic System. This over active Limbic System thinks that most negative emotions or states of mind are actually threats to survival. It thinks that the feeling of boredom is a threat to survival or feeling tired is a threat to survival. This is why it is called “overactive” because it is over reacting to common negative emotions. (Read:  Triggers and the Acronym TROUBLED) To survive it believes it must release brain chemicals into the brain. To get those brain chemicals it seeks out stimulation. In the case of porn addiction, that stimulant is porn and masturbation. Watching porn and masturbating allows the Limbic System to flush the brain with chemicals and gives it a temporary release. The Limbic System believes it is giving the brain a chance for “survival.”Of course this is not the case, the Limbic System is actually causing more stress on the brain and it is not solving any of the negative emotions that it is trying to cure.

The truth to the addiction and the game that is being played is to show you that you are not addicted to porn but rather the brain chemicals it causes. Brain chemicals are the problem and are at the center of your addiction. Learn how to control the Limbic System and let it heal itself and you will cure your addiction! (Read: Porn Is NOT Your Problem: Brain Chemicals Are)

People who don’t know how the game is being played will focus on not watching porn. That is like a basketball team focusing on dribbling and never practices shooting the ball, or a golf player focusing on walking around a golf course and never practices swinging a club. You know this limited technique of practicing will never bring success. So it is with porn addiction, focusing on not watching porn will always bring failure. That is why most of you reading this will have failed countless number of times. It is because you focused on not watching porn instead of focusing on healing the mind which is the source of the addiction.  (Read: How to Talk to Your Mind)

The Solution

The solution includes understanding and documenting triggers. What are triggers? Briefly triggers are made up of two parts.

Part 1: One part is a reminder of the addiction. This can be anything from an attractive girl at school or a billboard along the side of the road that is using sexually suggestive marketing. We are often forced in our modern world to view suggestive material. Avoiding suggestive material is not the point of the RAMP solution, the point is to be able to recognize when a trigger happens. So when you see something that excites you sexually instantly you should start evaluating if you are having a trigger. The RAMP Solution teaches you to recognize the moment a trigger happens. Time is of the essence. Limiting the amount of time the Limbic System can use to pump chemicals will limit the amount of chemicals in the brain and give you a better chance of avoiding a slip. (Read:  Triggers and the Acronym TROUBLED)

Part 2: The trigger needs you to be in a compromised state of mind. This means feeling TROUBLED. When you are emotionally compromised you will find that your Limbic System is easily triggered. Like part 1, part 2 is often out of your control. At some point in the day or week we will be in a TROUBLED state. That is just part of life. The point is not to avoid feeling negative feelings but to be able to recognize which feelings we are feeling. And then to have a Modifying Behavior that we have in place to satisfy the negative feeling. (Read: Clint Eastwood Versus Richard Simmons)

It is also highly recommended that you keep a journal. The journal can be used to document times of day when triggers happen. It can tell you what types of emotions give you more problems than others. It can help you see patterns that often form with triggers. Identifying these patterns will help you be able to dissect triggers so that you can defeat them.

Also, a journal will help you realize the effects of the program. Often the healing of the mind is subtle and unnoticeable. Working out the mind is often like a muscle. It will little by little get stronger. Often it is hard to document the day to day changes. It is easier to notice changes over months. However, with muscles there is a visual change which is not perceivable with brain changes. The brain will actually change shape as you heal. But because it is surrounded by your skull you will never see the folds of your brain change shape. However, there is a very real physical healing that will happen with your brain as you heal. Keeping a journal will help you realize and document these often unperceivable changes. (Read: Keep a Journal)

During a trigger you will feel the desire to have a slip. In the beginning it is ok to have slips. Addictions take time and slips are inevitable. Just like falling on a bicycle is inevitable when learning how to ride a bike (Read: Why Signing Contracts or Promises Are Counterproductive).

While slips are natural in the learning process, eventually you need to train your mind to eventually not go through with slips. In the RAMP Solution, your last defense against a trigger is to complete the RAMP process. ONCE YOU START THE RAMP PROCESS IT MUST BE FOLLOWED ALL THE WAY THROUGH! Do not let a slip during the process stop you from completing the RAMP process. This is very tempting to do as your mind will be put in a false sense of security because of the brain chemicals released during the slip. So in the beginning it is okay to have a slip while completing the RAMP process. However, it is not okay to stop the RAMP process until it has been completed all the way through. All the way to Self Praise.

RAMP is an acronym that stands for Recognize, Actions, Modify and Praise. In the program you will learn how to:

  • RECOGNIZE. Learn how to recognize the moment a trigger happens. You will also learn how to dissect a trigger which will allow you to better defeat future triggers.
  • ACTIONS. What physical actions to take to help you resist the trigger and the brain chemicals they cause.
  • MODIFY. You will learn how Modifying Activities can calm the Limbic System. Learn how to tailor Modifying Activities to different types of triggers.

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Teens & Porn: Why Teens Are Most Susceptible to Porn Addiction

man x-rayMost of us who suffer or have suffered from porn addiction formed the addiction in our teen years. In fact I would say the vast majority of people formed their compulsion during their teen years.

Why is that the case? Why are teenagers at such a high risk for pornography addiction?

For one, the frontal lobes of teens have not fully developed (Maturation of the Prefrontal Cortex, US Department of Health & Human Services). The frontal lobe is where higher forms of thought come into play. Were reasoning is fully developed. The frontal lobes are the part of the brain that makes us distinct from other animals.

With this part of the brain not being fully developed, teens are more likely to make incorrect decisions. Not only are they not going to make correct decisions but they are going to seek out experiences that produce rewarding stimulation to the brain. This can include the chemicals produced by porn. By viewing porn and masturbating the brain produces chemicals that the teen brain is craving.

This craving for new chemical reactions in the brain is why teens are more likely than any other age group to form depression, anxiety, drug use, eating disorders and drug use. It should be no surprise that porn addiction would also be a hallmark of many teenagers. (Risk Taking and Novelty Seeking in Adolescence, Ann E. Kelley, Terri Schochet & Charles F. Landry)

Another reason why teens are more susceptible to porn compulsion is because they are new to sexual desires. They are unprepared for the desire to procreate. This can catch many off guard.

This is especially dangerous because pornographers are making it extremely easy for youth to access pornography. There are estimations of 70% or more of teenagers between the ages of 15 and 17 will inadvertently come across porn on the internet (Baylor University & Kaiser Family Foundation). In my mind this is no accident. Pornographers are making it intentionally easy for youth to access pornography.

Conclusion

Many of you formed your addiction while in the teen years. Some of you blame yourselves for the addiction and that is not the truth. I want you to know that in many ways this addiction chose you and you are innocent. In many instances you were targeted by pornographers because of your vulnerability. Your pornography addiction is not your fault and it is time that you realize that aspect of the addiction. You are innocent and this addiction was not your fault.

Being the victim does not help either. You can now do something about it. You don’t have to be a pawn in someone’s game. You can rise up and learn how the game is being played in your mind. You can heal your own brain and become addiction free. You can be porn free.

While in many ways this addiction was done to you, you don’t have to sit ideally by and continue to live with it. Try the RAMP Solution to Porn Addiction!

Can I Become Addicted to Sex or Wet Dreams?

Blonde girl lingerie camisole in bed coupleIt is true that porn uses the same brain wiring to create chemical releases as sex and wet dreams. However, there is a decisive difference between porn and the more healthy uses of sex. And that is focus and control.

Porn

With porn you almost have perfect control over what you will view, the length of time you will view it (or lack of time restraints might be more accurate), and when you will orgasm. Also, the focus is on getting you high and eventually to orgasm.

Sex

With sex you do not have perfect control if the sex will even happen on a certain day. And you certain don’t always know how long it will last or even how the sex will be done. The focus is on you but also on your partner. You are also concerned about her experience during love making. This causes the brain to fire in different areas to be able to relate to her. Additionally, there may be conversations that take place during sex. There are negotiations that might happen such as you getting to do a little of what you want in exchange for her getting a little of what she wants. All of this interaction takes some of the focus out of just pleasure.

Also, there is wiring in the brain which will limit the amount of dopamine released when the sex is performed with someone we have already had sex with before. This limits the control you have on releasing brain chemicals. It also allows us to reach “Sexual Satiation” or the feeling of sexually satisfied. This wiring is known as the “Coolidge Effect.” You can read more about the Coolidge Effect here: The Coolidge Effect.

Wet Dreams

With wet dreams you have even less control if you will be able to have a wet dream and thus have brain chemicals released. The focus can be all over the place as the subconscious mind works out problems and scenarios during the dream. So even wet dreams are not all about releasing chemicals there are other things at play as well.

Conclusion

With porn, this absolute control and focus allows porn to become highly addictive. The Limbic System of your brain likes the idea of having something that is predictable. The Limbic System is in charge of keeping you alive. So if it can find a solution to every type of negative event it is going to jump for joy and desire that solution as much as possible. By forming an addiction the Limbic System thinks that it just found the fountain of youth, an event that can cure any type of problem, a panacea (Read: Porn Is Not Your Problem: Brain Chemicals Are).

So as a result of this “panacea” the limbic system will desire porn as a solution to every type of negative event. If you feel tired, it will desire porn. If you are bored, it will desire porn. If you feel lonely, it will desire porn. Anything that can be considered negative could potentially become a trigger for porn. The Limbic System will believe porn to be the evolutionary jack pot and will desire it above all else.

With sex and wet dreams this desire is there but it is not absolute. Because of the lack of guarantees, the Limbic System will desire it but not to the extent of forming an addiction.

However, that is not to say that a sex addiction is not possible. Say if a man were able to create a group of women each willing to have sex at different times. That man could develop an addiction to sex. If the man had absolute control over having sex then sex could quickly become an addiction.

If you are limited to your one partner, then most likely you will never develop an addiction to sex. A strong desire for sex will be present but not an addiction. Again this is because of the Coolidge Effect.

The RAMP Solution to porn addiction uses a Modifying activity (The “M” in RAMP) to break the Limbic System’s cycle. A simple example would be if you are tired and you have a history of having triggers happen when you are tired. The obvious Modifying activity would be to take a nap. So after your nap there is a very good chance that your Limbic System will no longer feel a desire for porn. There still may be a desire, however, the nap will cause the Limbic System to relax and say that the nap was “good enough for now.” Of course minutes later you might start to feel bored and the Limbic System will jump up and start screaming for porn again. At which time you do another Modifying activity that again allows the Limbic system to relax and say “good enough for now.”

After you have gone through enough of these “good enough for now” events the Limbic System will eventually stop desiring porn. This can take around 8 months to accomplish. At which time the Limbic System will know that the rest of the brain will not go along with its demands for porn and that there are other activities that are good enough and do not bring the shame that is felt after a slip.

Get the RAMP solution and start training your Limbic System to desire other things other than porn! www.StopPornToday.com

Compulsion or Addiction?

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Columbia University’s short answer to the difference between a compulsion and an addiction is as follows:

The distinction between a compulsion and an addiction is a fine one because the terms are sometimes misused and the medical profession’s conception of each changes as new research becomes available. Addiction and compulsion each have biologic/genetic and psychological components and each involves a perceived lack of control by the individual facing them. However, there are some key differences to keep in mind when using these terms.

A compulsion is a repetitive, ritualistic behavior that a person performs without rational motivation. Compulsive actions and behaviors offer temporary relief from anxiety — in turn, the need to reduce this anxiety is what drives the compulsive behavior. Sometimes this anxiety takes the form of obsessive thoughts related to the compulsive behavior (i.e., fear of germs and hand-washing), but often the compulsive behavior has no clear relation to anything in particular (the need to walk all the way around one’s car clockwise before getting in).

Addictions, similar to compulsions, can offer relief from stress or anxiety, but are characterized primarily by an inability to discontinue a harmful behavior despite its negative consequences. Common addictions include unhealthy and repeated (over)use of alcohol, drugs, gambling, or smoking, for example. Addictions are easily formed to behaviors that provide physical or psychological pleasure or relief from pain.

Many people exhibit habitual behavior, but compulsions and addictions refer to those instances where these behaviors disrupt an individual’s ability to function. In fact, compulsions and addictions can be debilitating or become destructive if untreated, for the individual and/or her/his family, friends, and others. Individuals dealing with compulsion or addiction need to seek evaluation from a medical or mental health professional who can recommend behavioral therapy, medication, and/or group-run recovery programs to help restore a sense of control over their behavior.

Right now, porn addiction would fall in the lesser category of “compulsion” by most psychologist. However, I believe that definition is destined to change as more is learned about the brain chemicals released during a porn viewing.

Additionally, porn is using the same reward mechanism that drugs use. The main difference is that a chemical is not physically ingested.

Also, changing the definition may change the way insurance companies treat porn addiction. There may be resistance from insurance companies to label porn as an addiction rather than a compulsion. This resistance will be noticed by the psychology community.

In this website both of the terms compulsion and addiction will be used to describe porn. This is done mainly because most people will not know about the term compulsion. And secondly, most people on this website won’t care what the term is they just want help to quit.

Some people have called porn harder to quit than hard drugs. With the Triple A-Engine it is no wonder why that would be the case. Just because porn is currently termed a compulsion by most is no reason to think that it is less difficult to overcome. Porn can be challenge to overcome.

However, with effective strategies and activities it can be dealt with and the mind can heal and be porn free once again. Get the RAMP Solution to porn addiction if you need help.

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Exercise the Atomic Bomb in the War Against the Limbic System

Atomic Bomb ExplosionExercise has been mentioned in other parts of this website (read: Buy Yourself Some Time). However, it certainly deserves its own post dedicated just to exercise. It can be a significant factor in speeding up your recovery. Can you recover without exercise? Most likely you can still have success. Will exercise help speed up the process and make it more likely that you will succeed? Also, most likely yes.

Exercise is your friend in your recovery. If you cannot think of an appropriate Modifying behavior (the “M” in the RAMP Solution) then you always have exercise.

Why is exercise so effective in helping you rewire your brain? Because it helps oxygenate the brain and an oxygenated brain is a healthy and high functioning brain. And a healthy brain will be better able to shift molecules around and rewire itself to be compulsion free. Also, blood flow helps clean out the brain from chemicals produced by the Limbic System and without chemicals the Limbic System losses its mechanism of control over the other parts of the brain. The frontal lobe dominates an oxygenated brain.

The brain that needs the most oxygen is the frontal lobe. This is the part of the brain that will help you control your overactive Limbic System. The Limbic System, however, does not need as much oxygen. If someone is not able to breathe the frontal lobe will be one of the first parts of the brain to suffer from the lack of oxygen. However, the Limbic System will still function for a time without oxygen. With the brain stem often being the last part of the brain to suffer from lack of oxygen.

Supercharge the part of the brain, the frontal lobe, that will help you most in your recovery by oxygenating your blood. After deep full breathes (the “A” or Action in the RAMP solution); you should consider exercise to be your next step as a means of oxygenating your blood.

Exercise can always be combined with modifying activities to make them more acceptable to the Limbic System as adequate solutions to TROUBLED feelings.

Exercise does not need to be some complex ordeal. You don’t need to run a marathon or even a half marathon. Your minimum should be somewhere between 10 to 20 minutes of exercise that causes increased breathing and heart rate. Consult your physician if you are new to exercising and if you have physical limitations.

Anyone can exercise; just find a way to move your body. Your goal is not to lose weight or gain muscle, although those things are satisfying and encouraging. The goal is just to get your heart rate up and blood flowing. Gyms are great, but jogging on the side walk works too. Anything works and later down the road if you want to focus on cardio or muscle toning, great, but right now just get moving.

ACTIVITY: Buy three songs that have an up tempo beat that gets you moving. Close the door to your room and close the blinds to your window and start maniac. Go crazy for the length of three songs and you’ll get your blood flowing and your brain cleaned up. Try Amazon MP3.

Exercise is your atomic bomb in the war against the Limbic System. Exercise calms the Limbic System and flushes out its chemicals from the brain. Exercise renders the Limbic System virtual useless for a while, but only for a while. Just keep in mind that sometimes you will still need to complete a Modifying behavior on top of exercise. It will feel great to get the Limbic Systems chemicals out of the brain but if you don’t take care of your TROUBLED feeling that TROUBLED feeling will return and cause another trigger. So tailor a Modifying activity to your TROUBLED feeling.

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Does Pornography Create Pedophiles?

The possibility of becoming a pedophile from your porn addiction is a possibility. Of course most will not go that route but the possibility is out there.

It is probably more likely that you could become a pedophile from your addiction than if you were porn free.

Here is the reason: The Limbic System is the part of the system that releases chemicals from porn viewing. The rest of the brain becomes tired of those chemicals after constant repetition of the chemical releases. So the brain with time begins to build a resistance to the chemicals. (Read: Porn is NOT Your Problem: Brain Chemicals Are)

Sad man in a empty roomThe addicted person will not reach the same high as they once did from porn viewing. The addicted person will often seek out two possibilities. Those possibilities are to either watch porn for longer periods of time. Lengthening the time of porn will allow the brain to be engulfed with chemicals for longer period of time. While the high is still lower the length of time is still rewarding to the addicted person.

The second option is to change the type of porn being viewed. With a different genre of porn an increased high can be experienced. This is especially true if the porn has a conflicting emotional element. For example, a man from a religious family will most likely be taught from childhood that sex is to be done only by married individuals and is supposed to be an expression of love. If this man develops a porn compulsion his brain will begin to resist the Limbic System’s chemicals. In order to increase the chemical release the man might begin to watch porn that is more violent in nature. Watching violent porn will cause an emotion response from his brain causing a new area of the brain to become active during porn viewing. This new area of the brain will then experience a greater high from the chemicals than would normal be experience thus increasing the high felt by the individual.

This second option also opens the door to child porn. This will not be an option or a desire for everyone addicted to porn but to a select few this will be a path they might choose to increase the high. So a person who is not addicted to porn will most likely never have a desire to watch child porn. However, that chance increases if that same person does develop a compulsion for porn. While pornography addiction does not guarantee a child porn addiction it does open the door and a person addicted to porn may be pushed into a child porn addiction through a desire to get a higher high.

If you are someone who has a compulsion for child porn, it is advised that you seek professional help. Child porn addiction is beyond the scope of this website.

The possibility of child porn addiction is just one of the risks and costs to those addicted to porn. And those risks and costs can be eliminated or greatly reduced with a porn free life. Start enjoying your life on a greater level by quitting porn for good. Start using the RAMP Solution to porn addiction and get effective strategies and activities to start winning the game that is being played in your mind.

Sexual Desires: Essential to an Enjoyable Life

Loving couple kissing outdoorsThe goal of the RAMP program is not to turn you into a eunuch. It is not to turn off the sexual desire but to harness it and to rein it in to where it is acceptable and useful to your everyday life.

Sexual desire is a powerful motivator. There is a great book that has a fantastic chapter dedicated to sexual energy and the benefits of it when focused. The book is Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Chapter 11 is entitled “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation.”

Here is a little excerpt:

A river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but eventually, it will force an outlet. The same is true of the emotion of sex. It may be submerged and controlled for a time, but its very nature causes it to be ever seeking means of expression. If it is not transmuted into some creative effort it will find a less worthy outlet.

Isn’t that a perfect reflection of porn compulsion as “a less worthy outlet?” That is why there is an “M” for Modifying activity in the RAMP solution. Sexual energy cannot be cured or dammed up. It must be modified and focuses into a rewarding and uplifting activity. Into an activity that helps us grow and become more than we were before.

The definition of TRANSMUTE: to change or alter in form, appearance, or nature and especially to a higher form (Merriam-Webster).

The desire to be with a woman is perhaps one of, if not the most powerful feeling men experience. That desire can be harnessed and refocused and transmuted to create energy for all aspects of our life. Loving couple embracing in cinema

You will find that after you have overcome pornography compulsion that you are more . . . alive. You can be more focused and your mind will be quickened. You will be more apt to smile and maybe for no reason. Others around you will most likely treat you differently. Women will be more attracted to you and will be more drawn to you with a desire to interact with you. This doesn’t necessarily mean in a sexual manner but they will be more at ease in your presence.

This comes from being able to refocus sexual energy into your Modifying behaviors.

I highly recommend that you read at least Chapter 11 of the book if not the whole book. You can find it at amazon.com for around $12 or for your kindle app for around $0.99.

Now go out there and transmute sexual energy to make yourself better than ever before!

Women with Porn Addiction

Women with Porn Addiction

This website is written from the standpoint that most people with a porn compulsion will be men. However, that is not to say that women will not fall into the trap as well. According to one statistic 17% of women will suffer from porn addiction. Around 28% of visitors to adult websites will be female (http://www.familysafemedia.com/pornography_statistics.html).

Perhaps fewer women suffer from pornography because they generally have a larger corpus collusum. This part of the brain connects the right and left hemispheres and allows for greater data transfer between the two halves. This might give women better access to emotions when porn is viewed. Accessing emotions can perhaps discourage the viewing of pornography because of the guilt that is often associated with viewing porn.

While men are more likely to turn off other parts of the brain while viewing porn, thus reducing the guilt felt during the viewing of porn. Guilt will often return after the slip has occurred and the rest of the brain turns on again.

Additionally, women tend to lean towards adult chat rooms and adult stories rather than images. However, the result is usually the same in that a compulsion for these adult materials develops. While the material may be different, the mechanism and the cause of the addiction are the same. Which is the Limbic System is causing a chemical release. It is really meaningless if the porn is graphically or textually inducing the chemical release.

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The RAMP Solution to porn addiction is still a viable way to help women through the addiction. The brain mechanisms are the same regardless of the type of porn being consumed.

However, one significant difference is an external one and it would be with the way society treats women who have a porn compulsion. They are ostracized more than a man would be. There is the saying, “boys will be boys.” However, women have historically been held to a higher moral standard than men. Even though you may not have told anyone about your problem, you are still more susceptible to feel extra shame from the addiction because you know the resentment and disapproval you would face if others knew your problem. So the downward spiral has the potential to be more powerful with women due to this extra shame projected onto them by society (read: The Downward Spiral of Porn Addiction vs. Praise & Affirmations). Because of this, women should stress the “P” in RAMP which is for Praise.

You can overcome this addiction. The brain was born addiction free and it wants to be addiction free. Once you know how the game is being played in your mind, you will be able to win the game. Most likely you got into this mess alone and you can get out of this mess alone as well. Don’t think that you have to confess your addiction to anyone, just start doing the program and have fun. Overcoming the addiction is a time of great personal discovery. You will know so much more about yourself after having conquering your Limbic System.

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Will Marriage Help Me Quit Porn?

Portrait of happy bride and groomThe short answer is “no!”

The long answer is below:

The idea has logic. The idea that once married, the addicted person will have an outlet for sex. It is statistically true that married men have more regular and consistent sex than unmarried men. So having sex on a regular basis would then decrease the desire to watch porn. With less desire to watch porn, the addicted person can then cut ties for good with porn watching and instead focus on a more healthy and productive use of sexual energy.

While the logic is sound, the understanding of the compulsion is lacking. Marriage will not solve porn compulsion.

The problem with marriage as a solution is that it does not know who the enemy really is. The enemy is not an overactive sex drive. The enemy is an overactive Limbic System of the brain. Now the idea behind the RAMP Solution to porn addiction is not to eliminate the enemy but to convert it back to an ally.

Know your enemy!

Knowing your enemy and knowing why it is doing what it is doing is an essential component to defeating it.

So the Limbic System does not seek out porn because it needs a sexual release. The Limbic System is instead hijacking the sexual reward system to create chemical highs to cope with TROUBLED feelings.

Marriages are great and desirable for men. Married men tend to live longer and happier than their single counterparts. However, marriages at times can be a form of stress and can be a source of TROUBLED feelings. When an overactive Limbic System (which you have if you have a porn compulsion) encounters these feelings the first thing it is going to desire is porn. And really it does not desire porn, but desires the chemicals that are produced by porn viewing.Married couple

Conclusion

Overall, marriages do little to calm an overactive Limbic System. However, what marriage does give you is a possibility to have a supportive partner. This can be a big help in your recovery. Also, it gives you motivation to quit porn. Marriage can give you that extra push to get back up after a slip. There will be plenty of slips in your recovery and you’ve got to be determined to get back up.

To solve this porn compulsion you need to work on your Limbic System. It is the only way. Convert the Limbic System to an ally and learn to calm it. With a normal Limbic System you will then be able to rid porn from your life for good. The cravings will end and you can return to a life that is much more enjoyable. Enjoy a life of confidence.

Why Free Porn Is Hard to Quit; the Triple-A Engine

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The reasons are availability, anonymity and affordability now called “triple-A engine” by Dr. Al Cooper. The internet has critically changed the way porn is now accessed.

With previous generations you had to physically buy porn at a gas station or go to places and see it live. This made it a challenge to view porn on a daily basis. Also the variety of porn was limited. This caused many to be shielded from forming an addiction to porn.

AVAILABILITY

However, with the internet almost everyone will be exposed to porn. Not only will everyone be exposed but the variety will be like never before. If someone searches porn long enough on the internet eventually and inevitably that person will find a genre of porn that is intriguing. Now that is not say that everyone who is exposed will form a compulsion to porn, however, the likelihood of a compulsion forming increases dramatically as the availability of different types of porn is created.

This all encompassing exposure to porn plus the ever increasing genres of porn is the AVAILABILITY portion of the “triple-A engine.”

Availability can cause addictions to be extremely difficult to cure. Some people who have quit both cigarettes and hard drugs have called the addiction to cigarettes harder to quit simply because of their availability.

The male brain is wired to take advantage of available females. This is old wiring and would give advantage to those who had this wiring thousands of years ago when survival of the elements was the leading cause of death. But today, in modern society this wiring does not give an advantage to those that use it. The idea is that a male will not reach “sexual satiation” as long as there is a new or novel female willing to have sex. With porn, this causes a serious problem. Essentially as long as the viewer changes the pornstar being viewed the viewer will not reach “sexual satiation.” Essentially causing an endless desire to view porn as the availability of novel females is virtually endless. This wiring has been given the name of the “Coolidge Effect.” (Read: The Coolidge Effect)

ANONYMITY

Today, people no longer need to travel to view porn. They no longer need to fear getting caught entering into a strip club or purchasing porn at a store. Now it is available from home with the viewing of it being easily deletable from their web browser. This allows the viewer of porn with a low chance of being caught by others. Without the humiliation of being caught, many have deemed porn to be natural and causing no harm to the brain of the viewer.

Anonymity has also allowed some to seek out genres of porn that they otherwise would be too ashamed to view. This can lead some to think that their viewing is untraceable. Some have given themselves a false sense of security and began looking at illegal forms of porn. Your internet service provider will not protect your identity if you are looking at illegal forms of porn.

AFFORDABILITY

Thanks to the internet free porn is everywhere now. No longer does one have to choose between a slurpee or a porn magazine. Now the person can have both. This affordability makes the consumption of porn to be non-ending. Also, affordability allows for the under aged who often do not have credit cards to be able to view porn. As discussed in other articles, it is the youth who are the most susceptible to forming porn compulsions.

With free porn, no longer is the checkbook a stop to porn viewing.

CONCLUSION

The mind wants to be porn free. It does not want to be addicted to porn. So with time it slowly shuts off the high that is received from porn viewing. The lowered high creates a desire to reach the highs that were achieved during the beginning stages of the addiction. This desire will cause the viewer to do one of two things: either watch more graphic forms of porn or to watch porn for greater lengths of time. The three A’s of porn will facilitate with both avenues to increase stimulation. This is what can make the addiction harder to break.

The answer is not to cut the internet from your life or to install a porn blocker. Both have serious limitations and are only band aids to the problem. The real solution is to work on your mind. To heal your mind so that you can live a porn free life. Living porn free will give you a life much happier than the one you have now.

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