Exercise the Atomic Bomb in the War Against the Limbic System

Atomic Bomb ExplosionExercise has been mentioned in other parts of this website (read: Buy Yourself Some Time). However, it certainly deserves its own post dedicated just to exercise. It can be a significant factor in speeding up your recovery. Can you recover without exercise? Most likely you can still have success. Will exercise help speed up the process and make it more likely that you will succeed? Also, most likely yes.

Exercise is your friend in your recovery. If you cannot think of an appropriate Modifying behavior (the “M” in the RAMP Solution) then you always have exercise.

Why is exercise so effective in helping you rewire your brain? Because it helps oxygenate the brain and an oxygenated brain is a healthy and high functioning brain. And a healthy brain will be better able to shift molecules around and rewire itself to be compulsion free. Also, blood flow helps clean out the brain from chemicals produced by the Limbic System and without chemicals the Limbic System losses its mechanism of control over the other parts of the brain. The frontal lobe dominates an oxygenated brain.

The brain that needs the most oxygen is the frontal lobe. This is the part of the brain that will help you control your overactive Limbic System. The Limbic System, however, does not need as much oxygen. If someone is not able to breathe the frontal lobe will be one of the first parts of the brain to suffer from the lack of oxygen. However, the Limbic System will still function for a time without oxygen. With the brain stem often being the last part of the brain to suffer from lack of oxygen.

Supercharge the part of the brain, the frontal lobe, that will help you most in your recovery by oxygenating your blood. After deep full breathes (the “A” or Action in the RAMP solution); you should consider exercise to be your next step as a means of oxygenating your blood.

Exercise can always be combined with modifying activities to make them more acceptable to the Limbic System as adequate solutions to TROUBLED feelings.

Exercise does not need to be some complex ordeal. You don’t need to run a marathon or even a half marathon. Your minimum should be somewhere between 10 to 20 minutes of exercise that causes increased breathing and heart rate. Consult your physician if you are new to exercising and if you have physical limitations.

Anyone can exercise; just find a way to move your body. Your goal is not to lose weight or gain muscle, although those things are satisfying and encouraging. The goal is just to get your heart rate up and blood flowing. Gyms are great, but jogging on the side walk works too. Anything works and later down the road if you want to focus on cardio or muscle toning, great, but right now just get moving.

ACTIVITY: Buy three songs that have an up tempo beat that gets you moving. Close the door to your room and close the blinds to your window and start maniac. Go crazy for the length of three songs and you’ll get your blood flowing and your brain cleaned up. Try Amazon MP3.

Exercise is your atomic bomb in the war against the Limbic System. Exercise calms the Limbic System and flushes out its chemicals from the brain. Exercise renders the Limbic System virtual useless for a while, but only for a while. Just keep in mind that sometimes you will still need to complete a Modifying behavior on top of exercise. It will feel great to get the Limbic Systems chemicals out of the brain but if you don’t take care of your TROUBLED feeling that TROUBLED feeling will return and cause another trigger. So tailor a Modifying activity to your TROUBLED feeling.

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Does Pornography Create Pedophiles?

The possibility of becoming a pedophile from your porn addiction is a possibility. Of course most will not go that route but the possibility is out there.

It is probably more likely that you could become a pedophile from your addiction than if you were porn free.

Here is the reason: The Limbic System is the part of the system that releases chemicals from porn viewing. The rest of the brain becomes tired of those chemicals after constant repetition of the chemical releases. So the brain with time begins to build a resistance to the chemicals. (Read: Porn is NOT Your Problem: Brain Chemicals Are)

Sad man in a empty roomThe addicted person will not reach the same high as they once did from porn viewing. The addicted person will often seek out two possibilities. Those possibilities are to either watch porn for longer periods of time. Lengthening the time of porn will allow the brain to be engulfed with chemicals for longer period of time. While the high is still lower the length of time is still rewarding to the addicted person.

The second option is to change the type of porn being viewed. With a different genre of porn an increased high can be experienced. This is especially true if the porn has a conflicting emotional element. For example, a man from a religious family will most likely be taught from childhood that sex is to be done only by married individuals and is supposed to be an expression of love. If this man develops a porn compulsion his brain will begin to resist the Limbic System’s chemicals. In order to increase the chemical release the man might begin to watch porn that is more violent in nature. Watching violent porn will cause an emotion response from his brain causing a new area of the brain to become active during porn viewing. This new area of the brain will then experience a greater high from the chemicals than would normal be experience thus increasing the high felt by the individual.

This second option also opens the door to child porn. This will not be an option or a desire for everyone addicted to porn but to a select few this will be a path they might choose to increase the high. So a person who is not addicted to porn will most likely never have a desire to watch child porn. However, that chance increases if that same person does develop a compulsion for porn. While pornography addiction does not guarantee a child porn addiction it does open the door and a person addicted to porn may be pushed into a child porn addiction through a desire to get a higher high.

If you are someone who has a compulsion for child porn, it is advised that you seek professional help. Child porn addiction is beyond the scope of this website.

The possibility of child porn addiction is just one of the risks and costs to those addicted to porn. And those risks and costs can be eliminated or greatly reduced with a porn free life. Start enjoying your life on a greater level by quitting porn for good. Start using the RAMP Solution to porn addiction and get effective strategies and activities to start winning the game that is being played in your mind.

Sexual Desires: Essential to an Enjoyable Life

Loving couple kissing outdoorsThe goal of the RAMP program is not to turn you into a eunuch. It is not to turn off the sexual desire but to harness it and to rein it in to where it is acceptable and useful to your everyday life.

Sexual desire is a powerful motivator. There is a great book that has a fantastic chapter dedicated to sexual energy and the benefits of it when focused. The book is Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Chapter 11 is entitled “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation.”

Here is a little excerpt:

A river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but eventually, it will force an outlet. The same is true of the emotion of sex. It may be submerged and controlled for a time, but its very nature causes it to be ever seeking means of expression. If it is not transmuted into some creative effort it will find a less worthy outlet.

Isn’t that a perfect reflection of porn compulsion as “a less worthy outlet?” That is why there is an “M” for Modifying activity in the RAMP solution. Sexual energy cannot be cured or dammed up. It must be modified and focuses into a rewarding and uplifting activity. Into an activity that helps us grow and become more than we were before.

The definition of TRANSMUTE: to change or alter in form, appearance, or nature and especially to a higher form (Merriam-Webster).

The desire to be with a woman is perhaps one of, if not the most powerful feeling men experience. That desire can be harnessed and refocused and transmuted to create energy for all aspects of our life. Loving couple embracing in cinema

You will find that after you have overcome pornography compulsion that you are more . . . alive. You can be more focused and your mind will be quickened. You will be more apt to smile and maybe for no reason. Others around you will most likely treat you differently. Women will be more attracted to you and will be more drawn to you with a desire to interact with you. This doesn’t necessarily mean in a sexual manner but they will be more at ease in your presence.

This comes from being able to refocus sexual energy into your Modifying behaviors.

I highly recommend that you read at least Chapter 11 of the book if not the whole book. You can find it at amazon.com for around $12 or for your kindle app for around $0.99.

Now go out there and transmute sexual energy to make yourself better than ever before!

Women with Porn Addiction

Women with Porn Addiction

This website is written from the standpoint that most people with a porn compulsion will be men. However, that is not to say that women will not fall into the trap as well. According to one statistic 17% of women will suffer from porn addiction. Around 28% of visitors to adult websites will be female (http://www.familysafemedia.com/pornography_statistics.html).

Perhaps fewer women suffer from pornography because they generally have a larger corpus collusum. This part of the brain connects the right and left hemispheres and allows for greater data transfer between the two halves. This might give women better access to emotions when porn is viewed. Accessing emotions can perhaps discourage the viewing of pornography because of the guilt that is often associated with viewing porn.

While men are more likely to turn off other parts of the brain while viewing porn, thus reducing the guilt felt during the viewing of porn. Guilt will often return after the slip has occurred and the rest of the brain turns on again.

Additionally, women tend to lean towards adult chat rooms and adult stories rather than images. However, the result is usually the same in that a compulsion for these adult materials develops. While the material may be different, the mechanism and the cause of the addiction are the same. Which is the Limbic System is causing a chemical release. It is really meaningless if the porn is graphically or textually inducing the chemical release.

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The RAMP Solution to porn addiction is still a viable way to help women through the addiction. The brain mechanisms are the same regardless of the type of porn being consumed.

However, one significant difference is an external one and it would be with the way society treats women who have a porn compulsion. They are ostracized more than a man would be. There is the saying, “boys will be boys.” However, women have historically been held to a higher moral standard than men. Even though you may not have told anyone about your problem, you are still more susceptible to feel extra shame from the addiction because you know the resentment and disapproval you would face if others knew your problem. So the downward spiral has the potential to be more powerful with women due to this extra shame projected onto them by society (read: The Downward Spiral of Porn Addiction vs. Praise & Affirmations). Because of this, women should stress the “P” in RAMP which is for Praise.

You can overcome this addiction. The brain was born addiction free and it wants to be addiction free. Once you know how the game is being played in your mind, you will be able to win the game. Most likely you got into this mess alone and you can get out of this mess alone as well. Don’t think that you have to confess your addiction to anyone, just start doing the program and have fun. Overcoming the addiction is a time of great personal discovery. You will know so much more about yourself after having conquering your Limbic System.

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Buy Yourself Some Time

Stopwatch. 3dSometimes when you have a trigger you are not going to know what the appropriate modifying behavior needs to be. Sometimes a trigger will catch you off guard when you have not been monitoring your mood.

Your best chance to avoiding the slip is to use the RAMP process.

Part of the “A” of RAMP (Action) must include deep full breaths. The reason for this is because it oxygenates the blood and cleans the brain from the Limbic System’s chemicals. It is not the solution but it buys you some time.

The solution is more the “M” of RAMP (Modifying behavior). The “M” is the most important activity of the RAMP solution. And it should be done with care and SHOULD ALWAYS BE DONE EVEN IF YOU HAVE A SLIP. YOU SHOULD ALWAYS COMPLETE THE RAMP SOLUTION ONCE IT HAS STARTED, ALL THE WAY THROUGH EVEN IF YOU HAD A SLIP ALONG THE WAY.

However, what if you can’t find that Modifying Behavior? Or you’re not quite sure you have strategically picked the correct modifying behavior? There are some things you can do to buy yourself some time. A supercharged Action can help buy you time.

A supercharged Action can help buy you time to find the appropriate Modifying Behavior. However, in no way should a supercharged Action be considered a Modifying Behavior. Just because it will buy you time, does not mean that you don’t need to complete the Modifying Behavior.

Two supercharged activities are:

EXERCISE – Exercise will increase your heart beat and oxygenate your blood. This can easily flush out the chemicals from the brain. If you are in doubts of your emotional state (TROUBLED state), there is a chance that exercise could be your Modifying Behavior. But to be on the safe side, if you are unsure, you should combine it with another activity just to be safe.

ICE COLD SHOWER – Now this might sound like a cliché. However, this can be very effective at buying time. Unlike exercise there is almost no way an ice cold shower could be a modifying behavior so don’t even try to deceive yourself. What an ice cold shower does do is cause you to go into a hypothermia. Keep this controlled and don’t go overboard. A little goes a long way. So a 5 to 8 minute ice cold shower will be plenty. The ice cold shower will lower your body temperature below normal functioning levels. This will shock the brain and the Limbic System. The Limbic System will effective seek out one thing: and that is heat. The addiction will definitely take a back seat. Additionally, the body will start to hyperventilate. Hyperventilation will create oxygenated blood and help flush the Limbic System’s chemicals out of the brain.

Give these a try if you are ever confused about which Modifying Behavior you need to do. Also, these can always be done just to supercharge the Action of RAMP and give greater probability of a successful Modifying Behavior. Exercise should always be considered as a catalyst for rewiring the brain and it can also be used to buy you time. Exercise is versatile and important to the overall process. Exercise can buy you about 30 minutes to even till the next trigger (days) if it can be correctly used as a Modifying Behavior.

To correctly using exercise as a Modifying Behavior means that your TROUBLED feeling was bored or tired or something else that can be alleviated after going to the gym.

Ice cold shower is not important to the overall process but it can be used occasionally to boost the Action of the RAMP solution. The cold shower will probably buy you about 20 minutes to an hour of time to figure out what Modifying Behavior you want to do. Once that time is over, there is an extremely high probability of having another trigger. The ice cold shower will most likely never be able to be used as a Modifying Behavior unless your TROUBLED feeling is maybe feeling Uncomfortable because your body is suffering from elevated heat temperatures.

Remember this is just to buy you time. To clean out the brain for a moment and give you some time to plan out the Modifying Behavior. You might feel relaxed from the brain being free from the Limbic System’s chemicals. You might be tempted to let your guard down and stop the RAMP process. DON’T DO IT. YOU MUST COMPLETE RAMP ONCE IT HAS STARTED. You most find your Modifying Behavior. Then you finish it with Praise to cut the cycle and the downward spiral of porn.

Happy brain rewiring and remember a porn free life is worth every cold shower in the world.

Clint Eastwood Versus Richard Simmons

Clint_Eastwood_DOI_1675_Porn_FreeWe all know who wins, Clint Eastwood. And 99.99% of the people reading this will agree that Clint Eastwood wins. Wins at what, you might ask? It doesn’t matter, Clint Eastwood wins. Most likely most of us, the vast majority, would identify ourselves more with the Clint Eastwood camp than with the Richard Simmons camp.

However, I would like to make a simple and generalized characterization of the two. I have never met nor do I know either of them personally. So everything I say is just a generalization here.

Clint Eastwood almost always portrays a man who doesn’t back down from anything. When you think of masculinity, you would put that characteristic with Eastwood over Simmons. Clint Eastwood is more of the silent but deadly type of person. When Eastwood says something you know he means it.

In contrast Richard Simmons is more of a bubbly girl rather than masculine. Simmons wears his heart on his sleeve. Simmons is more of a touchy feely person. If you met Simmons, you probably don’t need to ask Simmons how he is doing because he already told you at least once how he is doing and how he is feeling.

Again these are just very basic generalizations and stereo types of these two types of men.

Now when it comes to overcoming porn and living porn free, it should be noted that Eastwood would most likely have a porn problem than Simmons. The reason is obviously associated with the treatment of feelings.

Are feelings real?

Ask yourself that question and most likely you would say no. And I would answer the same way. You can’t touch feelings or see feelings. Feelings don’t have colors or shapes. You can’t prove I feel one way or the other. Most likely Clint Eastwood’s characters in the movies would answer that feelings are not real.

Now, to quit porn, you don’t have to become like Richard Simmons. Porn addiction would be near impossible to quit if that were the case. But what I am saying is that for this one instance, for this goal you have created for yourself to quit porn, you need to consider your feelings. Your mood is very much at the heart of porn addiction. Being in the TROUBLED state will increase the likely hood of having a trigger (read: Triggers and the Acronym TROUBLED).

The point is not to pretend that we are not angry or tired or over stressed. The point is to recognize these feelings and to do something about them. You must realize that these negative feelings are really calls to action. They are telling you, you need to do something. If you are stressing out about something, then that is a feeling that you need to keep organizing yourself and working towards solving whatever it is that is causing you stress. If you are tired, that is a feeling telling you that you need to take a break.

You need to keep a constant monitor on your mood. This is not something you will be used to doing. This will seem awkward at first and you may even need to ask yourself out loud “How am I feeling right now?” Or “What is my mood right now?” Just do it until you being to learn to monitor your mood constantly and internally.

When you do have a trigger, you will be already ahead of the game if you have been monitoring your mood. If you know you have been stressing out over a test, you will be prepared for triggers and you will already have the solution on hand. The solution will be exercising to reduce the stress and to study for the test to reduce the chances of feeling stressed again in the near future. The solution would be the “M” or the Modifying behavior in the RAMP solution.

Monitoring your mood will eventually allow you to be proactive instead of reactive to the addiction. It will allow you to act before a trigger even happens. As you do this, with time, the Limbic System will begin to calm itself. With time triggers will even begin to go away because they are simply not needed anymore.

You don’t need to be a touchy feely person to overcome the addiction. You definitely don’t need to share your mood or feelings with others but you do need to keep an internal dialog with yourself of how you are feeling.

Clint Eastwood always wins and always kicks the crap out of the other person. The same you will do as well, kick the crap out of this addiction. It is inevitable.

Clint Eastwood YouTube Video


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Triggers and the Acronym TROUBLED

Triggerguard and triggerWhat are triggers?

Triggers are events that trigger your craving for porn. Triggers create that moment when the brain begins to pump a small amount of chemicals in anticipation of acting out on the addiction. You will often feel slight uptick in your heart rate the moment a trigger happens. Triggers tend to be subtle and may not be noticed if they are not actively being monitored. However, with time someone can become sensitive the triggers and learn to identify the instance when they occur.

Triggers are often made of two parts. One is a reminder of the porn and the other is a state of mind that would make the Limbic System overactive.

Part 1:

The first part of the trigger is the emotional state of the person. The Limbic System is the cause of the addiction (read Porn Is NOT Your Problem: Brain Chemicals Are). The Limbic System being overactive will make mountains out of molehills. The Limbic System has a way of making uncomfortable feelings and changing them into life and death situation with the only solution being the chemical high achieved from viewing porn.

The emotional state of the person will often dictate the vulnerability of the Limbic System to be put into life and death mode. The acronym TROUBLED is used to describe some of the emotions one might feel that would put the Limbic System in an overactive state. TROUBLED stands for:


Any of these feelings can cause the Limbic System to fight for survival. The Limbic System will identify the chemicals produced by the addiction as the optimal chance for survival and will make a desperate plea to the rest of the brain to seek out those chemicals thus creating a trigger.

Part 2:

The second part is a reminder of porn. This can be anything from billboards, to T.V. commercials, to a simple advertisement on the internet. Marketers know that “sex sells” and will often use sexual imagery to sell a product. These simple advertisements can cause triggers in someone who has a compulsion for porn. Even our own memory can pull up an image that would cause a trigger. An attractive girl at school/work can cause a trigger. Almost anything can cause one to be reminded of porn. Controlling the outside world is impossible. Controlling the reminders of porn is impossible.

Although we have no control over the reminders, it is important to note that triggers need a reminder of the addiction to happen. If one knows that they just saw a reminder of porn, then the person can be on the lookout to see if a trigger happens. Knowing that a trigger is probable will allow the person to being monitor for a trigger. This is very usual information.

The faster a person knows a trigger has occurred the faster they can take steps to counteract the chemicals that are being produced in the brain. This will also allow limiting the amount of chemicals released. With lower levels of chemicals in the brain the person is much more likely to be able to overcome the trigger than if the person has allowed the trigger to happen and allows the brain to become awash in chemicals. When the brain is awash with chemicals fighting off the trigger will be close to impossible. Something you have already experienced.

Being controlled by an addiction is not fun. However there are effective activities you can do to limit the power of triggers. To get more information on how to resist the Limbic System’s chemicals get the RAMP Solution to porn addiction. You can get the audio here: www.StopPornToday.com

How to Talk to Your Mind

Brain erased Your mind is unbelievably fast. It can process complex and imaginary thoughts in fractions of a second. It can create images that it has never seen before. Because of the speed at which the mind functions it can be heavily influenced by suggestion.

Here is an example. Think of a gray elephant with long floppy ears and a long trunk. Now imagine that same elephant but make it a green elephant.

Although you have never seen a green elephant in your life your mind had no problem making one.

Now here is another exercise. Try NOT to think of a green elephant. I bet it is too late. As soon as you read the words “green elephant” your mind was off to the races and had already plastered the picture in your mind. Especially since it already has green elephants on the mind.

The speed of our brains is certainly an advantage in almost every instance imagined. However, with porn addiction it can be a hindrance if you ignore this feature of your mind. If you want to quit porn then you must work with your mind and not against it. Remember you want the Limbic System (the cause of the problem) to be your ally and not your enemy. So work with your mind to coax it to rewire itself so you can quit porn for good.

As the exercise above showed, you cannot tell your mind to not think about something. Or at least it is extremely difficult to approach the mind with something not to think about. Most likely that has been the crux of your quitting strategy in the past. With a clenched fist and by sheer force of will you have been telling your mind to “stop watching porn.” As the above exercise showed, this is a failed strategy because you are not working with your mind. Every time you tell your mind to “stop watching porn” it hears “watch porn.”

Your past strategy has been self defeating. You cannot resist the addiction. Resisting the addiction only makes it more real in your mind. Resistance also creates strong emotions within you and these emotions only further ingrain the addiction into your mind.

It has been shown that your mind will have a substantial increase in memory if it is under the influence of a powerful emotion. Even physical pain can cause a heightened ability to create memories. Need to study for a test, slap yourself in the face before you start studying. Just look around and make sure no one is watching. That is a joke but there is truth to it. Take a second and think back on times when you had physical pain. Most likely you can think of things that happened many years ago and the memories will be some of the most vivid memories you have. Even if you haven’t thought about the incident for years the memories remain vivid.

So when you told your mind “stop watching porn” and you said it with a very high emotional background you were really just further ingraining the addiction in your mind. Now that is not to say that the compulsion to porn is now forever ingrained. The mind is incredibly elastic and can be reshaped. And that which has been learned can be forgotten or at least not utilized.

Remember you are not addicted porn. You are addicted to the chemicals it produces in your mind!

When you are no longer addicted and you stumble upon porn on the internet you will be able to appreciate it. You will be able to tell yourself “that was interesting but not for me.” I have this and this to do, see you later porn. Notice how there is less resistance to that state of mind. Treat it as if you saw an owl in a tree. Oh that’s slightly interesting but I’m on my way to school/work. Then give your mind something else to think about.

That is how you work with your mind by giving it something to think about. The “M” in the RAMP Solution to porn addiction (buy it at www.StopPornToday.com) uses this technique to offer your mind a Modifying behavior. The Modifying behavior gives your mind something to think about and thereby not to think addiction. The RAMP Solution does not resist the addiction but only steers the mind to think and work on something else. The mind only thinks about one thing at a time, despite what multitaskers believe.

This substitution technique does not work instantaneously. As it has been stated above, depending on how long you have had the addiction; the addiction may be quite ingrained in your mind. This will take time to undo. Shoot for 8 months to cure. However, make no mistake about it, without a doubt it can be undone.

The substitution technique is not for the lazy. You must do the modifying behavior even if you have slip. This is exceptionally important. After having a slip you will have that chemical rush and then you will have the regret that follows. This state of mind will want to keep you from achieving and from going out and doing your modifying activity. YOU MUST STILL GO OUT AND DO YOUR MODIFYING ACTIVITY EVEN IF YOU HAD A SLIP. Doing the modifying activity is the only way the mind can be trained to accept a different activity instead of the porn.

Once the brain has a modifying activity it will slowly begin to accept it as an acceptable solution instead of using porn. And eventually the cravings will dissipate and will not dictate your life. You can live the life you were meant to live. You will be able to enjoy the simple things of life. You will have a more constant feeling of well being. This feeling of well being will be one that not only you feel but the people around you will feel it too. Your life will be noticeable different.

Porn Is NOT Your Problem: Brain Chemicals Are

It is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you will not be imperiled in a hundred battles; if you do not know your enemies but do know yourself, you will win one and lose one; if you do not know your enemies nor yourself, you will be imperiled in every single battle.

Sun Tzu

You need to know who the real enemy is to your porn addiction. Shockingly as it may be, porn is not your enemy. The enemy is that certain part of the brain that releases chemicals when you view porn. The enemy is your overactive Limbic System of the brain.

You need to know your enemy. Also know that the enemy will soon become an ally.

Human face with Biohazard signThe Limbic System is responsible for the reward centers of the brain. The viewing of porn allows these reward centers to become overactive. Interestingly, these reward centers of the brain become overactive with chemical addictions as well. By learning how to heal the brain, we will learn how to calm the Limbic System and curve the cravings for porn.

To truly overcome the addiction one must work with the brain. That is the cause of the addiction. Once the brain has rewired itself to its original non-addicted state, the cravings for porn will be manageable and controllable. You will be able to choose not to watch porn. With an addiction that ability to choose is often not possible for very lengthy periods of time. Maybe a week or two is the max of what an addicted person is capable of doing. And those two weeks are not happy go lucky weeks. That is heavy will power and effort being forced onto the mind. And eventually the addicted mind wins.

The goal is not to fight the mind but to heal it. You cannot win the war until the Limbic System becomes your ally. As long as the Limbic System is overactive, you will not be at peace. This can be a significant paradigm shift in your thinking. Instead of telling yourself not to look at porn, you need to start thinking “how can I calm the Limbic System?” That is really the answer you seek. Forget about the porn and start focusing on healing your mind.

Get a program that will help you work with your brain to overcome porn addiction. May I suggest StopPornToday.com and the RAMP solution to porn addiction.