Buy Yourself Some Time

Stopwatch. 3dSometimes when you have a trigger you are not going to know what the appropriate modifying behavior needs to be. Sometimes a trigger will catch you off guard when you have not been monitoring your mood.

Your best chance to avoiding the slip is to use the RAMP process.

Part of the “A” of RAMP (Action) must include deep full breaths. The reason for this is because it oxygenates the blood and cleans the brain from the Limbic System’s chemicals. It is not the solution but it buys you some time.

The solution is more the “M” of RAMP (Modifying behavior). The “M” is the most important activity of the RAMP solution. And it should be done with care and SHOULD ALWAYS BE DONE EVEN IF YOU HAVE A SLIP. YOU SHOULD ALWAYS COMPLETE THE RAMP SOLUTION ONCE IT HAS STARTED, ALL THE WAY THROUGH EVEN IF YOU HAD A SLIP ALONG THE WAY.

However, what if you can’t find that Modifying Behavior? Or you’re not quite sure you have strategically picked the correct modifying behavior? There are some things you can do to buy yourself some time. A supercharged Action can help buy you time.

A supercharged Action can help buy you time to find the appropriate Modifying Behavior. However, in no way should a supercharged Action be considered a Modifying Behavior. Just because it will buy you time, does not mean that you don’t need to complete the Modifying Behavior.

Two supercharged activities are:

EXERCISE – Exercise will increase your heart beat and oxygenate your blood. This can easily flush out the chemicals from the brain. If you are in doubts of your emotional state (TROUBLED state), there is a chance that exercise could be your Modifying Behavior. But to be on the safe side, if you are unsure, you should combine it with another activity just to be safe.

ICE COLD SHOWER – Now this might sound like a cliché. However, this can be very effective at buying time. Unlike exercise there is almost no way an ice cold shower could be a modifying behavior so don’t even try to deceive yourself. What an ice cold shower does do is cause you to go into a hypothermia. Keep this controlled and don’t go overboard. A little goes a long way. So a 5 to 8 minute ice cold shower will be plenty. The ice cold shower will lower your body temperature below normal functioning levels. This will shock the brain and the Limbic System. The Limbic System will effective seek out one thing: and that is heat. The addiction will definitely take a back seat. Additionally, the body will start to hyperventilate. Hyperventilation will create oxygenated blood and help flush the Limbic System’s chemicals out of the brain.

Give these a try if you are ever confused about which Modifying Behavior you need to do. Also, these can always be done just to supercharge the Action of RAMP and give greater probability of a successful Modifying Behavior. Exercise should always be considered as a catalyst for rewiring the brain and it can also be used to buy you time. Exercise is versatile and important to the overall process. Exercise can buy you about 30 minutes to even till the next trigger (days) if it can be correctly used as a Modifying Behavior.

To correctly using exercise as a Modifying Behavior means that your TROUBLED feeling was bored or tired or something else that can be alleviated after going to the gym.

Ice cold shower is not important to the overall process but it can be used occasionally to boost the Action of the RAMP solution. The cold shower will probably buy you about 20 minutes to an hour of time to figure out what Modifying Behavior you want to do. Once that time is over, there is an extremely high probability of having another trigger. The ice cold shower will most likely never be able to be used as a Modifying Behavior unless your TROUBLED feeling is maybe feeling Uncomfortable because your body is suffering from elevated heat temperatures.

Remember this is just to buy you time. To clean out the brain for a moment and give you some time to plan out the Modifying Behavior. You might feel relaxed from the brain being free from the Limbic System’s chemicals. You might be tempted to let your guard down and stop the RAMP process. DON’T DO IT. YOU MUST COMPLETE RAMP ONCE IT HAS STARTED. You most find your Modifying Behavior. Then you finish it with Praise to cut the cycle and the downward spiral of porn.

Happy brain rewiring and remember a porn free life is worth every cold shower in the world.

Clint Eastwood Versus Richard Simmons

Clint_Eastwood_DOI_1675_Porn_FreeWe all know who wins, Clint Eastwood. And 99.99% of the people reading this will agree that Clint Eastwood wins. Wins at what, you might ask? It doesn’t matter, Clint Eastwood wins. Most likely most of us, the vast majority, would identify ourselves more with the Clint Eastwood camp than with the Richard Simmons camp.

However, I would like to make a simple and generalized characterization of the two. I have never met nor do I know either of them personally. So everything I say is just a generalization here.

Clint Eastwood almost always portrays a man who doesn’t back down from anything. When you think of masculinity, you would put that characteristic with Eastwood over Simmons. Clint Eastwood is more of the silent but deadly type of person. When Eastwood says something you know he means it.

In contrast Richard Simmons is more of a bubbly girl rather than masculine. Simmons wears his heart on his sleeve. Simmons is more of a touchy feely person. If you met Simmons, you probably don’t need to ask Simmons how he is doing because he already told you at least once how he is doing and how he is feeling.

Again these are just very basic generalizations and stereo types of these two types of men.

Now when it comes to overcoming porn and living porn free, it should be noted that Eastwood would most likely have a porn problem than Simmons. The reason is obviously associated with the treatment of feelings.

Are feelings real?

Ask yourself that question and most likely you would say no. And I would answer the same way. You can’t touch feelings or see feelings. Feelings don’t have colors or shapes. You can’t prove I feel one way or the other. Most likely Clint Eastwood’s characters in the movies would answer that feelings are not real.

Now, to quit porn, you don’t have to become like Richard Simmons. Porn addiction would be near impossible to quit if that were the case. But what I am saying is that for this one instance, for this goal you have created for yourself to quit porn, you need to consider your feelings. Your mood is very much at the heart of porn addiction. Being in the TROUBLED state will increase the likely hood of having a trigger (read: Triggers and the Acronym TROUBLED).

The point is not to pretend that we are not angry or tired or over stressed. The point is to recognize these feelings and to do something about them. You must realize that these negative feelings are really calls to action. They are telling you, you need to do something. If you are stressing out about something, then that is a feeling that you need to keep organizing yourself and working towards solving whatever it is that is causing you stress. If you are tired, that is a feeling telling you that you need to take a break.

You need to keep a constant monitor on your mood. This is not something you will be used to doing. This will seem awkward at first and you may even need to ask yourself out loud “How am I feeling right now?” Or “What is my mood right now?” Just do it until you being to learn to monitor your mood constantly and internally.

When you do have a trigger, you will be already ahead of the game if you have been monitoring your mood. If you know you have been stressing out over a test, you will be prepared for triggers and you will already have the solution on hand. The solution will be exercising to reduce the stress and to study for the test to reduce the chances of feeling stressed again in the near future. The solution would be the “M” or the Modifying behavior in the RAMP solution.

Monitoring your mood will eventually allow you to be proactive instead of reactive to the addiction. It will allow you to act before a trigger even happens. As you do this, with time, the Limbic System will begin to calm itself. With time triggers will even begin to go away because they are simply not needed anymore.

You don’t need to be a touchy feely person to overcome the addiction. You definitely don’t need to share your mood or feelings with others but you do need to keep an internal dialog with yourself of how you are feeling.

Clint Eastwood always wins and always kicks the crap out of the other person. The same you will do as well, kick the crap out of this addiction. It is inevitable.

Clint Eastwood YouTube Video


Richard Simmons YouTube Video

Triggers and the Acronym TROUBLED

Triggerguard and triggerWhat are triggers?

Triggers are events that trigger your craving for porn. Triggers create that moment when the brain begins to pump a small amount of chemicals in anticipation of acting out on the addiction. You will often feel slight uptick in your heart rate the moment a trigger happens. Triggers tend to be subtle and may not be noticed if they are not actively being monitored. However, with time someone can become sensitive the triggers and learn to identify the instance when they occur.

Triggers are often made of two parts. One is a reminder of the porn and the other is a state of mind that would make the Limbic System overactive.

Part 1:

The first part of the trigger is the emotional state of the person. The Limbic System is the cause of the addiction (read Porn Is NOT Your Problem: Brain Chemicals Are). The Limbic System being overactive will make mountains out of molehills. The Limbic System has a way of making uncomfortable feelings and changing them into life and death situation with the only solution being the chemical high achieved from viewing porn.

The emotional state of the person will often dictate the vulnerability of the Limbic System to be put into life and death mode. The acronym TROUBLED is used to describe some of the emotions one might feel that would put the Limbic System in an overactive state. TROUBLED stands for:


Any of these feelings can cause the Limbic System to fight for survival. The Limbic System will identify the chemicals produced by the addiction as the optimal chance for survival and will make a desperate plea to the rest of the brain to seek out those chemicals thus creating a trigger.

Part 2:

The second part is a reminder of porn. This can be anything from billboards, to T.V. commercials, to a simple advertisement on the internet. Marketers know that “sex sells” and will often use sexual imagery to sell a product. These simple advertisements can cause triggers in someone who has a compulsion for porn. Even our own memory can pull up an image that would cause a trigger. An attractive girl at school/work can cause a trigger. Almost anything can cause one to be reminded of porn. Controlling the outside world is impossible. Controlling the reminders of porn is impossible.

Although we have no control over the reminders, it is important to note that triggers need a reminder of the addiction to happen. If one knows that they just saw a reminder of porn, then the person can be on the lookout to see if a trigger happens. Knowing that a trigger is probable will allow the person to being monitor for a trigger. This is very usual information.

The faster a person knows a trigger has occurred the faster they can take steps to counteract the chemicals that are being produced in the brain. This will also allow limiting the amount of chemicals released. With lower levels of chemicals in the brain the person is much more likely to be able to overcome the trigger than if the person has allowed the trigger to happen and allows the brain to become awash in chemicals. When the brain is awash with chemicals fighting off the trigger will be close to impossible. Something you have already experienced.

Being controlled by an addiction is not fun. However there are effective activities you can do to limit the power of triggers. To get more information on how to resist the Limbic System’s chemicals get the RAMP Solution to porn addiction. You can get the audio here: