How to Have Wet Dreams A.K.A Nocturnal Emissions

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Perhaps one of the most enjoyable benefits of being free from porn and free from masturbation is the benefit of wet dreams. Wet dreams, also called Nocturnal Emissions by the medical community, can produce very vivid and memorable dreams. They can give you insights into your subconscious and how it relates to sexuality. You can experience sexual situations that you would never have in real life. These experiences are brought to you from your subconscious and are generated from questions you have about life and about your own sexuality. Wet dreams allow you to learn more about yourself and what interests you from a perspective that would otherwise be unknown to you.

The reality of wet dreams is something that cannot be matched by watching porn and masturbating. In a dream the lines of reality and dream word are blurred. The brain has a very hard time distinguishing between what is vividly imagined and what is reality. Dreams are the best way to present the brain with vivid imaginations of something that is not real.

Nothing shuts up the Limbic System like a wet dream. When you get to the point where you achieve wet dreams then you can rest assured that the brain no longer needs the addiction of porn. However, it can take a month or two of no masturbation or sex to flip the mind’s switch to wet dreams.

How to have a wet dream:

1)      It may take a month without having an ejaculation (no masturbation or sex) for your mind to switch over and utilize wet dreams. To learn how to get away from porn and masturbation get the RAMP Solution to porn addiction.

2)      Have a normal sleep pattern, a set schedule that you sleep every day. Also, if you need an alarm to get up then you should try either getting to bed earlier or sleeping in later. Alarms are great for getting you to set a sleep pattern but they shouldn’t used on a daily basis. If you are relying on an alarm to wake you up every day then you need to figure out a way to get more sleep.

3)      Learn how to control your dreams.

a)       Keep a dream journal to train your mind being to remember dreams more vividly.

b)      Remembering dreams will make them more vivid

c)       Take vitamins to help you have more vivid dreams a sleep deeper. Not necessary but they can speed up the processes for some people. (Links are to Amazon.com)

i)      Vitamin B-6

ii)     Alpha GPC

iii)    5-HTP

iv)    Choline Bitartrate

v)      Fish Oil Concentrate

vi)    Melatonin

d)      Read suggested books below.

4)      Be able to tolerate some blue balls as your body works out its natural rhythm and begins to have wet dreams

5)      Enjoy wet dreams.

Have patience with wet dreams. If you have not had wet dreams in years it could take a month or maybe two for your mind to switch over to wet dreams. If you stay clear of masturbation your body will be forced to have wet dreams.

If you are working on your porn addiction you can also start working on controlling your dreams at the same time. So when you are ready you can make the transition into wet dreams very quickly. It is very helpful to know when you are dreaming. I personally have had many dreams that I could have had a wet dream but instead of going through with the sex I abstained because I thought it was real life. If you know you are dream then you will not have that problem. Controlling your dreams is not absolute control. The situations you will have in your dreams are ones that you could not have normally not even day dreaming. However, you can control how you react in the dream and make some changes to how things proceed.

It will be virtually impossible for you to become addicted to sleep and wet dreams because of the lack of absolute control. You won’t be able to control if that night will be the night you have a wet dream and that will keep your Limbic System from becoming overactive again. You may look forward to sleep and wet dreams but the addiction will not form (Read: Can I Become Addicted to Sex or Wet Dreams?).

Don’t think that you have to take the vitamins. The list of vitamins is only there if you need extra help or to help you have more vivid dreams. They are not a must. Try having lucid dreams without them and if you are having trouble then start experimenting with vitamins. Or even after you start having lucid dreams you might want to experiment with some of the vitamins to see if they can help you have more vivid dreams. Most of the vitamins are to help brain function so they could also be useful while you rewire your brain to quit porn. However, do not think that in any way that you need to have them to rewire your brain. You do not need them, you can do it naturally for sure.

And of course, wet dreams can be incredibly useful at relieving the pain of blue balls. Often you will feel the discomfort of blue balls before a wet dream is due, so hang in there. When you get into a rhythm your body will not allow the pain of blue balls to become too extreme without having a wet dream to relieve the pain. You will get to the point of mild discomfort though.

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Enjoy wet dreams. When you have a wet dream you should be on top of the world. You have achieved a great feat. You have officially cast aside porn and no longer need porn to cycle through sperm. Your brain has found a more natural and fulfilling way to clean out old sperm. Don’t let anything bring you down. No speeding ticket, no rejection from girls, no hassle from work can bring you down when you have a wet dream that morning.

Now go out there and start creating the life you were meant to live: a porn free life!

 

Easier to Quit Porn All the Way

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It will be easier for you to give up porn and masturbation completely than to have one day off a week or some other type of arrangement where you justify having a relapse.

The reason is that the brain, and more specifically, the Limbic System views porn as the holy grail, the fountain of youth, the jackpot for procreation (Read: Why Haven’t I Become Addicted to Sex or Wet Dreams). The Limbic System believes that through porn it can solve every and all problems that you may have throughout your lifetime. The addiction is powerful and some who have been addicted to other things like alcohol and drugs have called pornography the hardest of addictions to quit. Part of that difficulty is due to porn’s availability (Read: Why Free Porn Is Hard to Quit; The Triple-A Engine).

Given the power of this brain wiring it will be extremely difficult if not impossible to keep this wiring active and not have it consume you. If you have experienced porn addiction then you know the consuming fire that is the addiction.

It will be better for you to completely eliminate the desire for porn. Let me explain: you can eliminate the desire for porn but keep alive the desire for women and sex. This is possible through channeling the desire for porn and sex into another activity. This is the transmutation of sexual energy (Read: Sexual Desire: Essential to an Enjoyable Life).

This is one of those things were the cliché is true: You can’t have your cake and eat it too. You can’t have the brain wiring for the addiction and not be addicted. The wiring needs to be completely eliminated for you to have relief from the addiction.

Now if you chose to have a relapse then I advise you to keep that relapse short in time frame. Anything longer than a couple weeks is very damaging to your brain and could put you in a very serious relapse and back into the addiction. Also, limiting the type of porn would also be helpful in your recovery from your relapse. The best solution is to never have a relapse and to have Modifying Activities that are fulfilling enough to keep you from desiring a relapse.

If you have a relapse after experiencing a recovery, know that it is easier to regain the addiction free wiring since you have already experienced what a porn free life is like. Recovery will be much faster and easier since you already know the steps on how to get to recovery.

You will never feel happy after a slip. The joy you are seeking will not be achieved from pornography as you already know. Use your slips as a reminder that happiness cannot be achieved through watching porn. Learn from your mistakes and move on to activities that do bring you happiness.

Now go out there and live porn free so that you can live the life you were meant to live.

Top 3 Excuses Porn Addicts Use to Stay Addicted

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Do you use these excuses? Do you know someone who does? Let’s analyze these excuses and how they hold you back from living a porn free life.

1. All men watch pornography. Boys will be boys.

2. Pornography doesn’t affect me.

3. It’s impossible to quit. I’ve already tried.

In order to start the recovery one must admit that something is wrong. That the addiction is getting in the way of living life. This is not as easy as it may sound.

A drug addict or an alcoholic can get to a physical breaking point where the body simply cannot take in more drugs or alcohol. The body does not have such a breaking point with porn. Therefore it allows most porn addicted people to be high functioning addicts, meaning that the addict can hold down a job or go to school. The affects of porn are subtle with things like lack of confidence, being tired due to lack of sleep and being moody. These can be overlooked as just bad character traits by those around the addicted person and the porn addiction can be hidden.

Where a drug addict or an alcoholic can have family and friends step in and encourage recovery, a porn addicted person is less likely to have this happen. Perhaps a girlfriend or wife would be in a position to discover the addiction but outside of these very intimate relationships a porn addicted person does not have much encouragement to seek recovery. It many instances and in many ways it is up to the addicted person themselves to seek help.

Having excuses can keep a porn addict person in their addiction indefinitely. These excuses will keep someone from truly experience what a porn free life is like. Holding them from experience the joy life has to offer. Let’s now examine these excuses:

1. All men watch pornography. Boys will be boys.

Most good excuses have an element of truth to them. It is true that a problem with porn addiction is the pervasiveness at which pornography is viewed. It is estimated that 87% of men (aged 18-26) and 31% of females (aged 18-26) reported using pornography. Additionally, 67% of the young men and 49% of the young women believed viewing pornography as acceptable (Generation XXX Pornography Acceptance and Use Among Emerging Adults).

However, not all men look at porn. And it wasn’t this way in the past. Men did not look at as much porn as they do today. A big reason for this is the Triple-A Engine of the internet (Read: Why Free Porn Is Hard to Quit: the Triple-A Engine). To confront this excuse you need to focus on what you are missing out on in life. One of the biggest complaints from porn addiction is the lack of confidence and the lack of the ability to talk to women. Another major complaint from porn addicts is the lack of desire to have sex even leading to erectile dysfunction. These might not be your major complaints but there is some aspect of your life that is not being fulfilled because the addiction is getting in the way. Focus on this/these issues to get over the excuse that “everyone does it.”

2. Pornography doesn’t affect me.

Another limiting feature of the porn addicted person is the age at which he/she is exposed to pornography. With most being exposed to pornography between the ages of 14 and 17, it is very possible that people with pornography addiction have never experienced post puberty without being addicted to porn. This would limit what their ability to know what a normal life should be like with no real reference of what a porn free life is like (University of New Hampshire: The Nature and Dynamics of Internet Pornography Exposure for Youth).

If you think pornography addiction does not affect you, it might be because you have never lived post-puberty without being addicted to porn. You have no idea what a porn free life is like and you have no reference to compare your current life to a porn free life. Ask yourself how long you have been looking at porn and when the addiction started. For the vast majority, this addiction started in the teen years. If this is true for you, consider that you really do not have a reference point to really know how porn has affected your life.

It is very unlikely that porn addiction has not affected your life. Below is a chart that shows how pornography exposure correlates to changes in sexual attitudes.

Increased exposure to pornography does correlate with changes in sexual attitudes:

Exposure and sexual attitudes chart Exposure to Sexually Explicit Web Sites and Adolescent Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors

3. It’s impossible to quit. I’ve already tried.

Like always, there is a bit of truth to this excuse. If you have been addicted since your teen years and your now in your adulthood, you probably have tried to quit dozens of times. Every time you tried to quit you were met with failure.  It is impossible to quit porn if you don’t know how to do it. If your idea of quitting porn is to focus on the porn then you will fail every time. If you are telling yourself “stop looking at porn.” What your brain really hears is “look at porn.” Focusing on the porn will not be successful (Read: How to Talk to Your Mind).

You need to learn how the game is being played in your mind. You need to learn strategies and activities you can do to work with your mind to heal it. Once you heal your mind you will then have the choice to look at porn or not look at porn. After you consistently choose not to look at porn the addiction will leave you. The overwhelming need to look at porn, the triggers, will not be felt or if they are felt they will be seldom and they desire weaker and manageable. You need to learn about your mind. You need to know who the real enemy is. Once you have a game plan you can then execute the game plan and start winning the addiction. As always, it is recommended that you try the RAMP Solution to porn addiction to get the game plan you need to start winning.

Thanks for reading. Now go out there and start living a porn free life.

 

 

Jesus Tempted with Lust

Jesus and children - engraving by Lepold Flumeng from early in 20. cent.Before I begin, I want to clarify that the RAMP Solution to porn addiction is not religious based meaning that the RAMP Solution does not cure porn addiction with prayer or scripture study. The RAMP Solution teaches how the brain became addicted and then gives effective strategies and activities to help heal the brain and thereby cure the addiction.

However, it cannot be ignored that those who are religious will most likely have a higher propensity for porn addiction (read: Religion’s Duality: How it Causes and Cures Porn Addiction). For those that are religious I give you this topic to consider: Jesus felt lust and was tempted to misuse lust.

Now there is no scripture to validate the statement that Jesus experienced lust but I give you these scriptures to consider:

St. Luke Chapter 4:2-7, 13

2 Being forty days tempted of the devil. And in those days he did eat nothing: and when they were ended, he afterward hungered.

3 And the devil said unto him, If thou be the Son of God, command this stone that it be made bread.

4 And Jesus answered him, saying, It is written, That man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God.

5 And the devil, taking him up into an high mountain, shewed unto him all the kingdoms of the world in a moment of time.

6 And the devil said unto him, All this power will I give thee, and the glory of them: for that is delivered unto me; and to whomsoever I will I give it.

7 If thou therefore wilt worship me, all shall be thine.

13 And when the devil had ended all the temptation, he departed from him for a season.

I’ve never fasted for 40 days so I would not know how hungry that would make someone. However, I have been without food for a few days. And after about the second or third day the body stops craving food. As long as you keep drinking water the body will begin to slow the metabolism.

If Satan was willing to use bread as a temptation, it would seem that lust would be a temptation that Satan would use to tempt Jesus. It might have been included in the glory of the kingdoms of the world, or when Satan returned to Jesus after a season. But I am convinced that at some point in time Jesus was tempted with lust.

The desire for food is a basic one and one that can make one grumpy and irritable (Read: Triggers and the Acronym TROUBLED), but I would definitely not call it a desire that defines me or causes significant changes in behavior. A more defining desire is the desire to be intimate with a woman. The desire of lust is much more defining and can cause great changes in my behavior. Lust, when properly used, is good. It is a defining feature of manhood (Read: Sexual Desire: essential to an Enjoyable Life). If Jesus felt hunger which is a very basic and animalistic desire, how much greater and important is the desire of lust? Jesus begin “the son of man” must have felt such a defining desire as lust.

When I first thought this, I wondered if it was blasphemy to think that Jesus felt the desire of sexual intimacy. But as my understanding of how defining lust is for men, I don’t think this is contradictory to perfection. The desire for sexual intimacy is not a sin or a curse but a blessing. When this desire is used correctly it can be a source of great power and a source of revelation. It gets us out the door and challenges us to become greater. It can pick us up and challenge us to try again. It builds us and turns us from boy to man.

From the perspective of Satan, what would be more debilitating to man than to take away his desire for true intimacy? What would be better than to have men hate their desire for sex, if you desire the destruction of man? Porn is the perfect destroyer of lust. When you are caught up with porn it takes your confidence away. Porn twists lust from a blessing to a curse (Read: Man Wants to Divorce Wife so He Can Watch Porn). Good Shepherd - old lithography

If you think it is blasphemy to think that Jesus felt lust. I would challenge you to reconsider what lust truly is or can be. I know from my own experience being raised in a somewhat religious household, that there was a negative connotation to lust and sexual desire. This was done in a way to protect me from the dangers of unbridled lust or the misuse of lust. However, the execution and the results were negative. Sexual desire cannot be damned up; it must be focused and guided. To try and ignore it or to try and stop it completely will result in failure. Focusing it and harnessing it is the solution.

If you are currently caught up in pornography, I would say you most likely have a negative connotation to lust. On your journey to healing your mind, you will need to change your attitude towards sexual desires. When you are healed from your addiction there will inevitably be times when you stumble across pornography by accident. With a heal mind that lacks the addiction you will be able to recognize the beauty of pornography but will not view it. Instead you will be able to reshape and refocus the desire to view pornography with activities that make you greater to your Modifying Behaviors. The desire to view pornography will be recognized as a desire that can be reshaped and refocused to your benefit.

In closing, please don’t think that the RAMP Solution is based in religion. It is not. You do not have to be religious to use its solution to porn addiction. The brief mention of religious topics is not meant to offend or exclude people from the RAMP Solution. However, it would be short sited not to bring the topic up as many of those who do get caught up with porn will do so from a religious context. Religion often tries to scare people from porn and this tactic can actually draw the curiosity of the religious.

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The Coolidge Effect

Calvin-Coolidge_The Coolidge Effect_Porn Free_cropedThis is a very interesting phenomenon of the brain’s wiring for sex. It is believed to be in most if not all mammals which include humans.

The idea is that a male who has had sex with a partner will have less desire to copulate again with the same female, that the male will reach a state of being “sexual satiated” after sex. However, if that same male is introduced to another female, the male will have a renewed desire to copulate even if he was just in a state of being “sexually satiated.” This is due to a spike or increase in dopamine levels in the brain from a new partner.

In the years of survival, tens and hundreds of thousands of years ago this programming would have been beneficial. Males would have been able to mate with more females and have a decreased desire to mate with the same female. Having offspring with different females would allow for an increased chance of survival for the offspring.

Coolidge Effect is all about the Limbic System. The desire to mate with different females is inherent in male wiring. The Limbic System will reward mating with a new female more than mating with the same female.

However, in modern society the effects of the Coolidge effect now have a negative effect on offspring. No longer is survival in the wilderness a major concern for offspring. Now western societies often give advantages to children who come from a two parent home. This is evident in statistics that show children of two parent households are more likely to become college educated and have higher incomes than children who come from single parent home. What are other areas of advantage?

Additionally, this wiring of our brains can cause havoc with porn addiction. With internet porn there is close to a limitless variety of images of different woman. This can call up the Coolidge effect where we feel a renewed sexual desire when viewing a novel female. (Read: Why Free Porn Is Hard to Quit; the Triple-A Engine)

Have you experienced the Coolidge Effect?

  •  Have you ever been able to climax multiple times in a short time span by looking at different pornstars?
  • Are you able to look at porn for a longer period of time than you’re able to have sex?
  • Ever found the “perfect” pornstar in your estimations only to quickly lose interest and moved on to other pornstars?
  • Ever chose to look at porn instead of having real sex with your partner?
  • Ever had to think of porn in order to have an orgasm while having sex?

If you have experienced one or more of these events then you were probably experienced the Coolidge Effect.

The Frontal Lobe can be used to rein in the Limbic System and control the Coolidge Effect. The Frontal Lobe is what has given rise to modern human achievements. It is what has created our modern society. As written above our modern society will now punish those that succumb to the Coolidge Effect. If a male has offspring with multiple partners, he will most likely not have the resources or the time to raise them properly. Those offspring will most likely become statistics of the poor advantages of single parent households.

The Frontal Lobe has created this environment where the Coolidge Effect is now a negative type of wiring if not controlled or used properly. It is fitting that the Frontal Lobe will also be able to overpower the Limbic System and allow one to not use the Coolidge Effect negatively. The Frontal Lobe can be trained to overcome the triggers caused by an overactive Limbic System. (Read: The RAMP Solution to Porn Addiction: A Brief Overview)

While we have talked about the disadvantages of the Coolidge Effect, we should also talk about the advantages of the Coolidge Effect. The Coolidge Effect will allow a man to live with a woman without forming an addiction to her (Read: Why Haven’t I Become Addicted to Sex Or Wet Dreams?). Without the Coolidge Effect a man would never be sexually satisfied. Needing sex constantly and for endless hours would get old for most females very quickly. The fact that the Coolidge Effect will cause lower levels of dopamine to be released when matting with the same female, in many ways, is a good thing. The institution of marriage and long term pair bonding is possible due to the Coolidge Effect. The Coolidge Effect when having sex with the same female will allow for a man to be “sexually satiated.” This is a good thing. (Read: Sexual Desires: Essential to an Enjoyable Life)Calvin_Coolidge_The Coolidge Effect_Porn Free

Some might think it would be nice to manipulate this wiring in the brain and have endless amounts of sex with different females. But are you ever satisfied with porn? Have you really reached that moment of being “sexually satiated” with porn? Most likely the answer is no. Porn leaves one feeling hollow and without purpose. It takes away a man’s confidence and charisma with women. (Read: Man Wants to Divorce Wife so He Can Watch Porn)

Don’t think of the Coolidge Effect as negative wiring. We have the Frontal Lobe to control this wiring and the Frontal Lobe has created a system were advantage is given to long term pair bonding. This long term pair bonding in humans is possible because of the Coolidge Effect. It is to be celebrated and not feared.

For more information on the Coolidge Effect see this article: http://www.jneurosci.org/content/17/12/4849.full

Watch this video about the Coolidge Effect: The Great Porn Experiment: Gary Wilson at TEDxGlasgow

Teens & Porn: Why Teens Are Most Susceptible to Porn Addiction

man x-rayMost of us who suffer or have suffered from porn addiction formed the addiction in our teen years. In fact I would say the vast majority of people formed their compulsion during their teen years.

Why is that the case? Why are teenagers at such a high risk for pornography addiction?

For one, the frontal lobes of teens have not fully developed (Maturation of the Prefrontal Cortex, US Department of Health & Human Services). The frontal lobe is where higher forms of thought come into play. Were reasoning is fully developed. The frontal lobes are the part of the brain that makes us distinct from other animals.

With this part of the brain not being fully developed, teens are more likely to make incorrect decisions. Not only are they not going to make correct decisions but they are going to seek out experiences that produce rewarding stimulation to the brain. This can include the chemicals produced by porn. By viewing porn and masturbating the brain produces chemicals that the teen brain is craving.

This craving for new chemical reactions in the brain is why teens are more likely than any other age group to form depression, anxiety, drug use, eating disorders and drug use. It should be no surprise that porn addiction would also be a hallmark of many teenagers. (Risk Taking and Novelty Seeking in Adolescence, Ann E. Kelley, Terri Schochet & Charles F. Landry)

Another reason why teens are more susceptible to porn compulsion is because they are new to sexual desires. They are unprepared for the desire to procreate. This can catch many off guard.

This is especially dangerous because pornographers are making it extremely easy for youth to access pornography. There are estimations of 70% or more of teenagers between the ages of 15 and 17 will inadvertently come across porn on the internet (Baylor University & Kaiser Family Foundation). In my mind this is no accident. Pornographers are making it intentionally easy for youth to access pornography.

Conclusion

Many of you formed your addiction while in the teen years. Some of you blame yourselves for the addiction and that is not the truth. I want you to know that in many ways this addiction chose you and you are innocent. In many instances you were targeted by pornographers because of your vulnerability. Your pornography addiction is not your fault and it is time that you realize that aspect of the addiction. You are innocent and this addiction was not your fault.

Being the victim does not help either. You can now do something about it. You don’t have to be a pawn in someone’s game. You can rise up and learn how the game is being played in your mind. You can heal your own brain and become addiction free. You can be porn free.

While in many ways this addiction was done to you, you don’t have to sit ideally by and continue to live with it. Try the RAMP Solution to Porn Addiction!

Can I Become Addicted to Sex or Wet Dreams?

Blonde girl lingerie camisole in bed coupleIt is true that porn uses the same brain wiring to create chemical releases as sex and wet dreams. However, there is a decisive difference between porn and the more healthy uses of sex. And that is focus and control.

Porn

With porn you almost have perfect control over what you will view, the length of time you will view it (or lack of time restraints might be more accurate), and when you will orgasm. Also, the focus is on getting you high and eventually to orgasm.

Sex

With sex you do not have perfect control if the sex will even happen on a certain day. And you certain don’t always know how long it will last or even how the sex will be done. The focus is on you but also on your partner. You are also concerned about her experience during love making. This causes the brain to fire in different areas to be able to relate to her. Additionally, there may be conversations that take place during sex. There are negotiations that might happen such as you getting to do a little of what you want in exchange for her getting a little of what she wants. All of this interaction takes some of the focus out of just pleasure.

Also, there is wiring in the brain which will limit the amount of dopamine released when the sex is performed with someone we have already had sex with before. This limits the control you have on releasing brain chemicals. It also allows us to reach “Sexual Satiation” or the feeling of sexually satisfied. This wiring is known as the “Coolidge Effect.” You can read more about the Coolidge Effect here: The Coolidge Effect.

Wet Dreams

With wet dreams you have even less control if you will be able to have a wet dream and thus have brain chemicals released. The focus can be all over the place as the subconscious mind works out problems and scenarios during the dream. So even wet dreams are not all about releasing chemicals there are other things at play as well.

Conclusion

With porn, this absolute control and focus allows porn to become highly addictive. The Limbic System of your brain likes the idea of having something that is predictable. The Limbic System is in charge of keeping you alive. So if it can find a solution to every type of negative event it is going to jump for joy and desire that solution as much as possible. By forming an addiction the Limbic System thinks that it just found the fountain of youth, an event that can cure any type of problem, a panacea (Read: Porn Is Not Your Problem: Brain Chemicals Are).

So as a result of this “panacea” the limbic system will desire porn as a solution to every type of negative event. If you feel tired, it will desire porn. If you are bored, it will desire porn. If you feel lonely, it will desire porn. Anything that can be considered negative could potentially become a trigger for porn. The Limbic System will believe porn to be the evolutionary jack pot and will desire it above all else.

With sex and wet dreams this desire is there but it is not absolute. Because of the lack of guarantees, the Limbic System will desire it but not to the extent of forming an addiction.

However, that is not to say that a sex addiction is not possible. Say if a man were able to create a group of women each willing to have sex at different times. That man could develop an addiction to sex. If the man had absolute control over having sex then sex could quickly become an addiction.

If you are limited to your one partner, then most likely you will never develop an addiction to sex. A strong desire for sex will be present but not an addiction. Again this is because of the Coolidge Effect.

The RAMP Solution to porn addiction uses a Modifying activity (The “M” in RAMP) to break the Limbic System’s cycle. A simple example would be if you are tired and you have a history of having triggers happen when you are tired. The obvious Modifying activity would be to take a nap. So after your nap there is a very good chance that your Limbic System will no longer feel a desire for porn. There still may be a desire, however, the nap will cause the Limbic System to relax and say that the nap was “good enough for now.” Of course minutes later you might start to feel bored and the Limbic System will jump up and start screaming for porn again. At which time you do another Modifying activity that again allows the Limbic system to relax and say “good enough for now.”

After you have gone through enough of these “good enough for now” events the Limbic System will eventually stop desiring porn. This can take around 8 months to accomplish. At which time the Limbic System will know that the rest of the brain will not go along with its demands for porn and that there are other activities that are good enough and do not bring the shame that is felt after a slip.

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Does Pornography Create Pedophiles?

The possibility of becoming a pedophile from your porn addiction is a possibility. Of course most will not go that route but the possibility is out there.

It is probably more likely that you could become a pedophile from your addiction than if you were porn free.

Here is the reason: The Limbic System is the part of the system that releases chemicals from porn viewing. The rest of the brain becomes tired of those chemicals after constant repetition of the chemical releases. So the brain with time begins to build a resistance to the chemicals. (Read: Porn is NOT Your Problem: Brain Chemicals Are)

Sad man in a empty roomThe addicted person will not reach the same high as they once did from porn viewing. The addicted person will often seek out two possibilities. Those possibilities are to either watch porn for longer periods of time. Lengthening the time of porn will allow the brain to be engulfed with chemicals for longer period of time. While the high is still lower the length of time is still rewarding to the addicted person.

The second option is to change the type of porn being viewed. With a different genre of porn an increased high can be experienced. This is especially true if the porn has a conflicting emotional element. For example, a man from a religious family will most likely be taught from childhood that sex is to be done only by married individuals and is supposed to be an expression of love. If this man develops a porn compulsion his brain will begin to resist the Limbic System’s chemicals. In order to increase the chemical release the man might begin to watch porn that is more violent in nature. Watching violent porn will cause an emotion response from his brain causing a new area of the brain to become active during porn viewing. This new area of the brain will then experience a greater high from the chemicals than would normal be experience thus increasing the high felt by the individual.

This second option also opens the door to child porn. This will not be an option or a desire for everyone addicted to porn but to a select few this will be a path they might choose to increase the high. So a person who is not addicted to porn will most likely never have a desire to watch child porn. However, that chance increases if that same person does develop a compulsion for porn. While pornography addiction does not guarantee a child porn addiction it does open the door and a person addicted to porn may be pushed into a child porn addiction through a desire to get a higher high.

If you are someone who has a compulsion for child porn, it is advised that you seek professional help. Child porn addiction is beyond the scope of this website.

The possibility of child porn addiction is just one of the risks and costs to those addicted to porn. And those risks and costs can be eliminated or greatly reduced with a porn free life. Start enjoying your life on a greater level by quitting porn for good. Start using the RAMP Solution to porn addiction and get effective strategies and activities to start winning the game that is being played in your mind.

Women with Porn Addiction

Women with Porn Addiction

This website is written from the standpoint that most people with a porn compulsion will be men. However, that is not to say that women will not fall into the trap as well. According to one statistic 17% of women will suffer from porn addiction. Around 28% of visitors to adult websites will be female (http://www.familysafemedia.com/pornography_statistics.html).

Perhaps fewer women suffer from pornography because they generally have a larger corpus collusum. This part of the brain connects the right and left hemispheres and allows for greater data transfer between the two halves. This might give women better access to emotions when porn is viewed. Accessing emotions can perhaps discourage the viewing of pornography because of the guilt that is often associated with viewing porn.

While men are more likely to turn off other parts of the brain while viewing porn, thus reducing the guilt felt during the viewing of porn. Guilt will often return after the slip has occurred and the rest of the brain turns on again.

Additionally, women tend to lean towards adult chat rooms and adult stories rather than images. However, the result is usually the same in that a compulsion for these adult materials develops. While the material may be different, the mechanism and the cause of the addiction are the same. Which is the Limbic System is causing a chemical release. It is really meaningless if the porn is graphically or textually inducing the chemical release.

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The RAMP Solution to porn addiction is still a viable way to help women through the addiction. The brain mechanisms are the same regardless of the type of porn being consumed.

However, one significant difference is an external one and it would be with the way society treats women who have a porn compulsion. They are ostracized more than a man would be. There is the saying, “boys will be boys.” However, women have historically been held to a higher moral standard than men. Even though you may not have told anyone about your problem, you are still more susceptible to feel extra shame from the addiction because you know the resentment and disapproval you would face if others knew your problem. So the downward spiral has the potential to be more powerful with women due to this extra shame projected onto them by society (read: The Downward Spiral of Porn Addiction vs. Praise & Affirmations). Because of this, women should stress the “P” in RAMP which is for Praise.

You can overcome this addiction. The brain was born addiction free and it wants to be addiction free. Once you know how the game is being played in your mind, you will be able to win the game. Most likely you got into this mess alone and you can get out of this mess alone as well. Don’t think that you have to confess your addiction to anyone, just start doing the program and have fun. Overcoming the addiction is a time of great personal discovery. You will know so much more about yourself after having conquering your Limbic System.

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Will Marriage Help Me Quit Porn?

Portrait of happy bride and groomThe short answer is “no!”

The long answer is below:

The idea has logic. The idea that once married, the addicted person will have an outlet for sex. It is statistically true that married men have more regular and consistent sex than unmarried men. So having sex on a regular basis would then decrease the desire to watch porn. With less desire to watch porn, the addicted person can then cut ties for good with porn watching and instead focus on a more healthy and productive use of sexual energy.

While the logic is sound, the understanding of the compulsion is lacking. Marriage will not solve porn compulsion.

The problem with marriage as a solution is that it does not know who the enemy really is. The enemy is not an overactive sex drive. The enemy is an overactive Limbic System of the brain. Now the idea behind the RAMP Solution to porn addiction is not to eliminate the enemy but to convert it back to an ally.

Know your enemy!

Knowing your enemy and knowing why it is doing what it is doing is an essential component to defeating it.

So the Limbic System does not seek out porn because it needs a sexual release. The Limbic System is instead hijacking the sexual reward system to create chemical highs to cope with TROUBLED feelings.

Marriages are great and desirable for men. Married men tend to live longer and happier than their single counterparts. However, marriages at times can be a form of stress and can be a source of TROUBLED feelings. When an overactive Limbic System (which you have if you have a porn compulsion) encounters these feelings the first thing it is going to desire is porn. And really it does not desire porn, but desires the chemicals that are produced by porn viewing.Married couple

Conclusion

Overall, marriages do little to calm an overactive Limbic System. However, what marriage does give you is a possibility to have a supportive partner. This can be a big help in your recovery. Also, it gives you motivation to quit porn. Marriage can give you that extra push to get back up after a slip. There will be plenty of slips in your recovery and you’ve got to be determined to get back up.

To solve this porn compulsion you need to work on your Limbic System. It is the only way. Convert the Limbic System to an ally and learn to calm it. With a normal Limbic System you will then be able to rid porn from your life for good. The cravings will end and you can return to a life that is much more enjoyable. Enjoy a life of confidence.