The goal of the RAMP program is not to turn you into a eunuch. It is not to turn off the sexual desire but to harness it and to rein it in to where it is acceptable and useful to your everyday life.
Sexual desire is a powerful motivator. There is a great book that has a fantastic chapter dedicated to sexual energy and the benefits of it when focused. The book is Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Chapter 11 is entitled “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation.”
Here is a little excerpt:
A river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but eventually, it will force an outlet. The same is true of the emotion of sex. It may be submerged and controlled for a time, but its very nature causes it to be ever seeking means of expression. If it is not transmuted into some creative effort it will find a less worthy outlet.
Isn’t that a perfect reflection of porn compulsion as “a less worthy outlet?” That is why there is an “M” for Modifying activity in the RAMP solution. Sexual energy cannot be cured or dammed up. It must be modified and focuses into a rewarding and uplifting activity. Into an activity that helps us grow and become more than we were before.
The definition of TRANSMUTE: to change or alter in form, appearance, or nature and especially to a higher form (Merriam-Webster).
The desire to be with a woman is perhaps one of, if not the most powerful feeling men experience. That desire can be harnessed and refocused and transmuted to create energy for all aspects of our life.
You will find that after you have overcome pornography compulsion that you are more . . . alive. You can be more focused and your mind will be quickened. You will be more apt to smile and maybe for no reason. Others around you will most likely treat you differently. Women will be more attracted to you and will be more drawn to you with a desire to interact with you. This doesn’t necessarily mean in a sexual manner but they will be more at ease in your presence.
This comes from being able to refocus sexual energy into your Modifying behaviors.
Now go out there and transmute sexual energy to make yourself better than ever before!