The Coolidge Effect

Calvin-Coolidge_The Coolidge Effect_Porn Free_cropedThis is a very interesting phenomenon of the brain’s wiring for sex. It is believed to be in most if not all mammals which include humans.

The idea is that a male who has had sex with a partner will have less desire to copulate again with the same female, that the male will reach a state of being “sexual satiated” after sex. However, if that same male is introduced to another female, the male will have a renewed desire to copulate even if he was just in a state of being “sexually satiated.” This is due to a spike or increase in dopamine levels in the brain from a new partner.

In the years of survival, tens and hundreds of thousands of years ago this programming would have been beneficial. Males would have been able to mate with more females and have a decreased desire to mate with the same female. Having offspring with different females would allow for an increased chance of survival for the offspring.

Coolidge Effect is all about the Limbic System. The desire to mate with different females is inherent in male wiring. The Limbic System will reward mating with a new female more than mating with the same female.

However, in modern society the effects of the Coolidge effect now have a negative effect on offspring. No longer is survival in the wilderness a major concern for offspring. Now western societies often give advantages to children who come from a two parent home. This is evident in statistics that show children of two parent households are more likely to become college educated and have higher incomes than children who come from single parent home. What are other areas of advantage?

Additionally, this wiring of our brains can cause havoc with porn addiction. With internet porn there is close to a limitless variety of images of different woman. This can call up the Coolidge effect where we feel a renewed sexual desire when viewing a novel female. (Read: Why Free Porn Is Hard to Quit; the Triple-A Engine)

Have you experienced the Coolidge Effect?

  •  Have you ever been able to climax multiple times in a short time span by looking at different pornstars?
  • Are you able to look at porn for a longer period of time than you’re able to have sex?
  • Ever found the “perfect” pornstar in your estimations only to quickly lose interest and moved on to other pornstars?
  • Ever chose to look at porn instead of having real sex with your partner?
  • Ever had to think of porn in order to have an orgasm while having sex?

If you have experienced one or more of these events then you were probably experienced the Coolidge Effect.

The Frontal Lobe can be used to rein in the Limbic System and control the Coolidge Effect. The Frontal Lobe is what has given rise to modern human achievements. It is what has created our modern society. As written above our modern society will now punish those that succumb to the Coolidge Effect. If a male has offspring with multiple partners, he will most likely not have the resources or the time to raise them properly. Those offspring will most likely become statistics of the poor advantages of single parent households.

The Frontal Lobe has created this environment where the Coolidge Effect is now a negative type of wiring if not controlled or used properly. It is fitting that the Frontal Lobe will also be able to overpower the Limbic System and allow one to not use the Coolidge Effect negatively. The Frontal Lobe can be trained to overcome the triggers caused by an overactive Limbic System. (Read: The RAMP Solution to Porn Addiction: A Brief Overview)

While we have talked about the disadvantages of the Coolidge Effect, we should also talk about the advantages of the Coolidge Effect. The Coolidge Effect will allow a man to live with a woman without forming an addiction to her (Read: Why Haven’t I Become Addicted to Sex Or Wet Dreams?). Without the Coolidge Effect a man would never be sexually satisfied. Needing sex constantly and for endless hours would get old for most females very quickly. The fact that the Coolidge Effect will cause lower levels of dopamine to be released when matting with the same female, in many ways, is a good thing. The institution of marriage and long term pair bonding is possible due to the Coolidge Effect. The Coolidge Effect when having sex with the same female will allow for a man to be “sexually satiated.” This is a good thing. (Read: Sexual Desires: Essential to an Enjoyable Life)Calvin_Coolidge_The Coolidge Effect_Porn Free

Some might think it would be nice to manipulate this wiring in the brain and have endless amounts of sex with different females. But are you ever satisfied with porn? Have you really reached that moment of being “sexually satiated” with porn? Most likely the answer is no. Porn leaves one feeling hollow and without purpose. It takes away a man’s confidence and charisma with women. (Read: Man Wants to Divorce Wife so He Can Watch Porn)

Don’t think of the Coolidge Effect as negative wiring. We have the Frontal Lobe to control this wiring and the Frontal Lobe has created a system were advantage is given to long term pair bonding. This long term pair bonding in humans is possible because of the Coolidge Effect. It is to be celebrated and not feared.

For more information on the Coolidge Effect see this article: http://www.jneurosci.org/content/17/12/4849.full

Watch this video about the Coolidge Effect: The Great Porn Experiment: Gary Wilson at TEDxGlasgow

Comments

  1. I wonder if our sexual appetite is similar to our appetite for food. Could our intense desire for sex and pursuit of it be linked to the fact that most people today have animal sex as opposed to “making love”, which connotes a deeper attachment and connection between couples. Just like eating junk food doesn’t really satiate us on a deep level nutritionally and so we keep eating because we have never satisfied the nutritional requirements of the body. Similarly, most people today have “junk” sex, in that the sexual act is detached from feelings of love and tenderness, and so we keep pursuing sex without realising that the sex we’re having is not “nutritionally” wholesome and satisfying on a deeper level.

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