Will Marriage Help Me Quit Porn?

Portrait of happy bride and groomThe short answer is “no!”

The long answer is below:

The idea has logic. The idea that once married, the addicted person will have an outlet for sex. It is statistically true that married men have more regular and consistent sex than unmarried men. So having sex on a regular basis would then decrease the desire to watch porn. With less desire to watch porn, the addicted person can then cut ties for good with porn watching and instead focus on a more healthy and productive use of sexual energy.

While the logic is sound, the understanding of the compulsion is lacking. Marriage will not solve porn compulsion.

The problem with marriage as a solution is that it does not know who the enemy really is. The enemy is not an overactive sex drive. The enemy is an overactive Limbic System of the brain. Now the idea behind the RAMP Solution to porn addiction is not to eliminate the enemy but to convert it back to an ally.

Know your enemy!

Knowing your enemy and knowing why it is doing what it is doing is an essential component to defeating it.

So the Limbic System does not seek out porn because it needs a sexual release. The Limbic System is instead hijacking the sexual reward system to create chemical highs to cope with TROUBLED feelings.

Marriages are great and desirable for men. Married men tend to live longer and happier than their single counterparts. However, marriages at times can be a form of stress and can be a source of TROUBLED feelings. When an overactive Limbic System (which you have if you have a porn compulsion) encounters these feelings the first thing it is going to desire is porn. And really it does not desire porn, but desires the chemicals that are produced by porn viewing.Married couple

Conclusion

Overall, marriages do little to calm an overactive Limbic System. However, what marriage does give you is a possibility to have a supportive partner. This can be a big help in your recovery. Also, it gives you motivation to quit porn. Marriage can give you that extra push to get back up after a slip. There will be plenty of slips in your recovery and you’ve got to be determined to get back up.

To solve this porn compulsion you need to work on your Limbic System. It is the only way. Convert the Limbic System to an ally and learn to calm it. With a normal Limbic System you will then be able to rid porn from your life for good. The cravings will end and you can return to a life that is much more enjoyable. Enjoy a life of confidence.

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